Alright.
So, there's this girl. Not just any other girl, this girl is the only thing on my mind from the time I wake up till the time I fall asleep.
Why is this? Because I can't seem to figure out how to ask her out. I get really, really nervous and can't keep my composure around her.
So here's the trouble: a kid asked her to a dance at another school. I don't know if this means she's going out with him, but I've heard from someone that she doesn't want to go out with him.
I know she likes me, I just can't approach her and ask her out... and now I'm not even sure if I should ask her out.
I've been pondering this for a good 2 weeks now (vacation and all this week, among failed attempts at talking to her ( quote: "Hi Rebecca... uhh... uuhm... I... well... I just... *Bell Rings* I gotta go..")) and I can't seem to figure this out.
I'm hoping you girls (preferably girls who have experienced this only on the other end) and guys can help me with this, because I have nowhere else...
2007-03-02 14:43:16 · 12 answers · asked by Mike 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wowhee, thanks for the quick response.
Also, I know she doesn't have a computer so no YIM, AIM, or MSN :(
But thanks for the input so far people :D
2007-03-02 14:53:24 · update #1
Just ask her.I've never been asked out yet but don't get nervous. I'd love it if a guy just walked up to me and asked me out. Just say something like "Hey Rebecca. Are you busy this weekend?" She'll get ur point. Good luck.
2007-03-02 14:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by rachelgsmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good explanations.
Good. You're the same age. It makes things easier!
Yup..you are in LOVE with her. You can consider her "girlfriend" right now. Just don't tell anyone. Not to embarass you, but this is you being a secret admirrer. That happened to me. And not he's my boyfriend!
Hm, and about the dance..you guys are 15. And if you want, If you can go to the book store, or coffee shop afterschool to study/do homework, ask her to go with you. Something like "Hey! Want to go study with me at the Starbucks in Barnes And Nobles?!" you say. "Maybe we can do our work there!"
Nope, don't approach her like that. It's not appropriate. I mean if someone came up to me && said "COME ON! I have a date for you! Wanna come?!" I would not be happy. And I would dump that guy. Don't approach so fast. Feel comfortable with her. As I said in the last paragraph, you get it. Approach SLOWLY!
Hm...the bell rings...ask her at a different time. A better time. That almost happened to my friend. So, it's Rebecca. What a sexy name. And don't tell her "HI REBECCA! Uhh...I like you...and....i was wondering...if you want to...can you..um...go out with me?!" Don't do that! go to study with her as I said and get to know her. Figure out if she still goes out with that guy.
Yes, I am a girl, and I have been done this..in fact, i dumped 4 guys. I just had to. They were annoying. And I have one right now!!!
2007-03-02 14:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sunset :]] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man look i have learned through my years that its not the girl that makes you nervous its the girl maybe saying no that make you nervous look man who cares about the other guy just ask her out wahts the worse that could happen you get put down soooo **** happens just do it the possible answers you can get are yes , ihave a boyfriend or i cant because something came up or if she a mean person hell no you ugly if that happens have some jokes ready because it sucks to get drilled like that in front of people which you shouldnt do anyway do it in private or write a note
2007-03-02 14:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by E Money 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go up to her and just ask
let it out
BELIEVE ME ITS A RELIEF ON BOTH SIDES
just say:
mike:hey rebecca
rebecca:oh hey mike
mike:wutz up?
rebecca:nm, you?
mike: nuthin, i was jus wonderin,uhh you wanna go out with me?
rebecca: oh ofcourse ohmydamn, yer amazing!!!!!
ok maybe not the last line but if you say everythin else
i gauruntee you that it will work
you sound decent and im sure she likes you
and the way you feel, you probably wont be able to focus until you ask her out
good luck!
2007-03-02 14:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and plan out what your going to say the night before you ask her out.This can eliminate any extra nerves you might have.Asking someone out isnt easy for anyone just be confident in yourself.And if she turns you down just ask to be friends dont let it ruin your whole life just because she doesnt feel the same.Is she isnt the one there is someone out there.
2007-03-02 14:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Makenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes you.. than whats the problem.. but the thing is.. girls get tired of guys really fast.. so she could like you one second but not the next.. i would give you about 1 more week to ask her out b4 she moves on to someone else.
2007-03-02 14:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it even if you studer or trip or whatever. But the other thing you could do is email her aand or ask a friend you trust to ask for you. Its better coming from you. Dont wait...just do it. She wants you too. trust me
2007-03-02 14:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Wolf woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no no, don't back out now, go ask her out, go on! There's not much you can lose from it. And if she says no, then it wasn't meant to be, nothing much to cry over. But do it! U'll feel so much better.
2007-03-02 14:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know where you're coming from cos this guy i like is like u. I so want him 2 ask me out. Just ask her out I know she'll say yes.
2007-03-02 14:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out, just say i heard a rumor you like me.... or make up a fake aim and ask her who she likes trust me no girl can turn someone down unless they truely hate you, or they are just a #####
go for it!
2007-03-02 14:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋