Has anyone lost there virginity before there wedding night and got pregnant while on the pill?

Question

I want to go all the way with my fiance----but scared to tell mom if I end up pregnant before marriage.

Answer 1

your ENGAGED hun you will get married! If your having douts about the wedding i would wait though incase you don't go through with it, and you're a grown women and you don't need your mommy holding your hand to tell u the HONEST/BRUTAL truth okay?

Answer 2

If you and your partner are not both ready and willing to have a child at any time, its irresponsible to have sex. Its not fair to the child to bring it into the world if you are not both happy about it and able to take good care of it.

I got pregnant while my husband and I were engaged. We were using the pill, a condom, and it was the last day of my period (not typically a fertile time of the month).

We decided not to put off our wedding date, and went ahead with it as planned, which meant that I was 9 months pregnant at the time. We couldnt justify wasting money on a wedding that only lasts an hour or less, when we had a baby on the way, so we ended up having a tiny informal ceremony.

Our families were angry and unsupportive my entire pregnancy. I was sick, and stressed, and my husband had lost his job. My mother in law even wanted me to abort the baby. I got rude comments from people out in public because even though I was almost 20, I look younger than my age, and they assumed I was a single, pregnant, highschooler. It was a nightmare. My husband and I were happy about the baby and were willing to do anything to make our lives together work, but nobody else cared. They were negative and hurtful

That was the harsh reality for me. To top it all off, we were not financially prepared for a child. When Brooklyn was born, everything changed. Our families were overwhelmed by their love for her and finally changed their tunes. They also saw what wonderful parents we were, despite being young and unprepared, and expressed their pride and love.

Our daughter Brooklyn will be 2 in just a couple of days. Everyone who meets her comments on what a happy, bright, and loving child she is. As hard as it all was, I wouldnt change a thing. I know it helped my husband and I bond even stronger, and appreciate parenthood even more. He now has a great job that he loves, and it allows him plenty of family time. I thoroughly enjoy being a stay at home mom. I still get a bit hurt by some of the things that were said to me during the whole ordeal, and I know that if we had been married and prepared, people would have been a lot more supportive and I wouldnt have spent my entire pregnancy crying. We really look forward to having our second child, and being able to bask in the joy of it, rather than being dragged down by negativity.

Having a child is a blessing, but it definetly helps to have the people you love on your side.

The fact is, doing what is best for you and your future child in the long run, is worth a WHOOOOLE lot more than some temporary physical pleasure.

Answer 3

Well sometimes it just happens. I know form experience that it can and as a result I have been married for 12 wonderful yrs and have a gorgeous 12 yr old son do reget it not one bit if I had to do it over again would I change anything never.

However if you are concerned about it the make sure that you are using some other form of birth control other then just the pill. I was on the pill and it can happen.

I am sure it will all work out in the end I know it did for me

Answer 4

I was on the pill and got pregnant with my 2nd child. DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHER WISE! I took it everyday and the same time! Your best bet is to either wait or use a condom too. And if your fiance is not a virgin I would ask him to go get tested for STD's.. ... I know you love your fiance and you might think it's dumb but, I made my husband do the same thing not that I thought he had something but to be safe because I was a virgin and he wasn't! And he wasn't offened at all! He knew he didn't have anything and proved it to me!

Answer 5

I've been married and on the pill for almost 5 years and have not gotten pregnant. The pill WORKS unless you don't take it right. Make sure you take it at the same time everyday and don't miss any pills. You won't get pregnant if you take the pill correctly.

Answer 6

Yes & yes, to your question. A question you should ask yourself is, am I ready to have a child with this man. If the answer is yes and you're willing to accept the consequences of your actions, which would be a child. Then proceed.
The main point from what I see is the person is your fiance and your willing to commit your life to him, it shouldn't matter what your mother thinks. You and Your fiance will become one once married. It'll be you and him against the world. Right?

Answer 7

Keep your virginity for your wedding night. That also preserves your self-respect and your self-image. If you're that horny, get some play things and hold him off. I'm certain you don't want to be a pregnant bride, or a single mom who's bringing up a child that the father decided he didn't want. So, hold off for both of your sake, that is, your's and and your future children.

Answer 8

If you are taking the pill correctly there should be no problem but if you are on antibiotics the pill may not be effective. Also save yourself for marriage then the moment will be more special.

Answer 9

If you have waited this long then why not just wait until the wedding night...It will be such a special night for you and him...Birth Control pills are not 100% effective..no contraceptive is....so there are no guarantees! Good Luck!

Answer 10

Yeah I lost my virgiity eight years before my wedding night and got pregnant TWICE while on the pill. The first time I wasn't married the second time I was.