kids having kids...?

Question

does anyone else have a problem with "i am 13 and pregnant" or "i am 15 and my mom doesnt know i am pregnant" i mean seriously- it reflects back on the parents. first off they shouldnt have a chance to get pregnant that young. Parents should be more in their daughters/sons lives. i just wish that girls and boys could realize the financial/emotional/physical aspects of having another life depend on you. Come on kids, grow up and keep your skirts down and boys: keep your pants up!

not to intimidate anyone..but these people saying "the US has more problems.." did you ever think that if 12 year olds having kids that their kids are going to wait till they are 30 to have kids..everywhere is going to have problems but atleast it is not increasing children in the medicade office because they cant afford their own insurance (they arent even old enough to work in the US)

Answer 1

I agree.. Their just like "oh.. i'm in love" "i'll never get pregnant and if i do, we'll get married" what ever happened to responsible parenting? the parents aren't 100% to blame... some teens just don't think past tommarow.

Answer 2

You're making far too many generalizations, there are exceptions to every rule. Many kids get pregnant at a young age because they are repeating a pattern--their parents did the same thing---this was a big problem at my high school. Others get pregnant in spite of a pattern, I know of a family where the dad was a pastor and yet he had not one but two daughters get pregnant as teenagers. Think of those teenagers that get taken advantage of--I took a summer class with a 31-year-old woman who said she took her baby as a "show and tell" to her 8th grade health class. The father was 22, she didn't realize it then but he had taken advantage of her. Her parents sent her to a rich aunt to ask for money to pay for an abortion but the woman(though a child at the time) insisted on keeping the baby, she grew up with her child. What about situations like that? Many teenagers thrust themselves into sexual promiscuity because they have been sexually abused sometime before. I'm not promoting young sex but this is not an area that is cut and dry--there are so many factors. I've got a lot of respect for teenagers who get pregnant and take responsibility by keeping the child rather than taking the easy out and getting an abortion. Get off your high horse and be compassionate!

Answer 3

Parents do play a big role in their kids lives, but some of them just don't realize spending just 5 minutes a day with their kids could make a tremendous difference. By the time I was 14 I was pregnant (I didn't have the baby due to certain circumstances)....I know why i ran out and had sex, I felt as if no one cared about me at home, so why should I. I even began to believe that some of the people that I was with cared about me. I was too young to be able to know. My heart goes out to some of these kids. Granted some of them out there that just do it just to do it. Just because they feel like, "well hey, everyone else is doing why don't I?" and because no one told them that it's ok to hold out. I really think they should have more programs in schools where they have the teenage mothers come out and tell these girls how hard it is. I'm 21 now with my daughter and it's still hard. They need to explain to these girls that the "father" isn't always going to be in the picture and unless they have a really loving family, they probably won't have them to back them up either. All I know is that if I knew then even half of the things I know now I would have waited to have sex. Alot of things have changed in my life since then and I'm just glad that God blessed me and gave me a second chance in life when I really didn't think I would have one.

Answer 4

The parents can not be blamed completely. Come on you were younger once and you know that there is always an opportunity. Some kids are confused about love and do not understand all of the concepts of sex and relationships because the parents thought they were being good parents by not exposing them to things too soon. Some kids come from broken homes and are looking to make a "real" family but they just do not know how to go about it. I know some great parents who have kids having kids. I'm sorry that you would prefer to be tied to your child 24/7 but not all parents can do that. You have to give them space and hope tht you have taught them well and society has not influenced them. What DOES reflect on the parents is how well they stand behind their kids and support them.

Answer 5

Teenage Pregnancy Is a problem in the United States. I must agree. But Its only one problem. Theres sooo many more. Children need the right kind of mentors and people to turn to. So that they have the information they need. In order to grow up to be successful. Without that could get a child in a pretty sticky situation. And a child could be faced to learn 1st hand what thats like. Regardless Babies having Babies makes one grow up rather fast.

So Parents talk to your kids. Dont let them be a teenage pregnancy statistic.

Answer 6

Yes it is a crying shame that young girls get pregnant. I do put some of the blame on the parents but come on why can't the teenager have enough sense to get on birth control or atleast buy a 75 cent condom?

Answer 7

I realize that teens got pregnant in the olden days too but it seems that girls are younger now. I think the media and music industry has poisoned our children's minds and innocence. Almost every song you listen to that is geared to youngsters has a very sexy message in it as well as movies. Even Shrek had innuendo I was uncomfortable letting my children hear. I know at their age they likely have no clue what it means but it doesn't take long to find out once they start school. I have heard girls in public school doing favours for boys so that the boys like them, I mean who is teaching them those things? I'm sure it isn't the parents so they have to have heard about it somewhere. I can think of about 20 singers/videos that are in kids mp3 players that are pretty suggestive.

Answer 8

I know I'm going to tick off someone by saying this but here goes. There are to many kids these days hanging with kids to late at night and when you ask the child are they parents home, your told, no their at the bar or they went out or yeah but they don't care where I am as long as I'm not bothering them. Don't get me wrong some parents are actually working and the kids take off out of the house on their own. I think it is really sad. These poor kids are looking for attention and love and will get it anyway possible.

Answer 9

It's hard to keep control fo anychild when most forms of disipline are "abuse" How are you going to make your child listin if they do not respect you as being the parent? I know a parent that got introble just for taking the kids TV away! they said it could have caused emotional harm because the kid was used to having that TV don't blame the parents blame the goverment. they will not Alow parents to raise children the way they need to be raised. (i am 21 and i can see these things)

Answer 10

well, you are right about certain points. kids these days should realize all the aspects of having children. however, at a certain age, they are going to make decision for themselves. i was taught everything the right way and my parents were very strict with me. but... i still had sex at 16. what teenager does not think that they are already grown and know all the answers? it's not like you can quit your job and follow them around everywhere 24/7. my dad has been a long time high school teacher and he has caught kids having sex at school before. if they want to, they will find a way.

Answer 11

The problem is that there are too many homes where both parents work and no one is at home after school to watch the kids. There are so many latch key kids now that it is worrysome. I think that parents should think carefully about what is necessary to raise a family, and what is the extras that they can do without.