I know it will be awkward but it has been so long and I don't know what to do to make myself attractive to women, physically, financially, ect.
2007-03-02 14:30:18 · 27 answers · asked by Brandon 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its very difficult i startrd dating again at age 44 im 46 now it just seems its harder to meet people at that age as it is to meet them when u are in high school,but when you do date again u will do fine it just takes some time is all
2007-03-02 14:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through a divorce and it is not an easy thing at all to start dating again. You become so used to being with the same person for a long period of time that once you are single again its hard not to compare the women of interest to your past relationship. Basically you just have to start from scratch, do a group date with some of your friends so it will be not as difficult to begin with and you can feel comfortable. After my divorce I went out with alot of my guy friends to try to meet women, for me it was alot easier that way. Like I said its not an easy thing but my best advice would be to have fun and be yourself and if your just getting divorced there is no need to rush into anything. Enjoy the single life for a while!! Good luck
2007-03-02 14:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by karaokemikg1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. When I got divorced, I swore I would never date again. I didn't trust my own instincts since I had been hurt so badly. So, I just concentrated on having fun and taking care of myself. I started bowling (to get out) and going with friends to concerts. When I least expected it, I met a man that had also been through a bad divorce. We became great friends. We were sure that was all we wanted! Then, the funniest thing happened...I fell in love with him! I wasn't trying, we weren't "dating", we just fell in love. We have now been married over 9 years and I can't imagine ever being with anyone else.
So...my advice is to try "not dating". Just be yourself. Trust me, women will be attracted!!
2007-03-02 14:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by bizzylady2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to start dating again after being with the same person for so long. I guess you just have to get through the awkwardness and just do it(at least that is what I keep telling myself). I will tell you two things that have really bothered me on dates I have been on lately. One guy kept telling me how important he was and how everyone loved him. A different guy kept talking really loudly as if he was trying to impress everyone around us. Humble is appealing. For me, it is important that a man be financially fit meaning that he can take care of himself.
2007-03-02 14:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoogirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the things you've missed or wanted to do...don't go looking for someone and that someone will find you...I've been divorce for 4-5 years and have had two really good women come into my life and this is from a guy who never thought he would be divorced.
2007-03-02 14:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clean you fingernails, brush your teeth and put on 1/4 as much cologne as you think you need. That said, be attactive emotionally first. No baggage, speak kindly of your ex, if you can't do that say nothing at all. Be kind and humorous and thoughtful. Don't spend money you don't have to impress a date. Never underestimate the words "I just want to cuddle" but you have to meant it and not push for more. A guy who respects his date will be more attractive to her than you can possibly imagine!
2007-03-02 14:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by tlcats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all know it will be awkward i have been divorced 2 times and it is hard to start dating again it was hard for me it took me almost 2 years before i wanted to see someone else because i have been hurt so many times but it is not what you look like it is what counts on the inside
good luck on the dating
2007-03-02 15:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by free spirit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't hard. I am 56 and single now and I date.
Just be yourself. This time around you wil be more of yourself. And you will know the red flags when you see them. You are more mature.
Join Yahoo Personals. It is a good way to meet someone.
Always meet in a public place and make first meeting a short date, just in case she is crazy. Also remember you will kiss a million froggetts before you find your princess.
Good luck
2007-03-02 14:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Match.com is a great place to meet women. Even if you don't meet your match immediately, it's still a schmorgasbord of contacts. Join up for 6 months so you won't feel any pressure as to time constraints. I met my new wife on there. It's a really fun thing to do. Good luck.
2007-03-02 14:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jay C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brandon just be yourself by looking at your pic no worries you want be single for long but make sure you are really to start dating emotionally, physically and financially.
2007-03-02 14:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by 2much 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell. Don't be in a rush only if u really have 2 becauz 2 some people that means u r desperate. No offense. Hope I helped.
2007-03-02 14:33:00 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋