My stepdad died suddenly last week at the age of 51. He and my mom were together for 15 years. The autopsy results are not in yet but it appears to have been a heart attack. My mom was the one who found him, while he was still alive, but he died at the hospital. He was the absolute love of her life. I have moved back into her house temporarily so she doesn't have to be alone, and I am helping her with the planning and doing everyday errands for her. My mom already has the loss to deal with and she also has his children bothering her for his "stuff" at the same time. I feel so heartbroken for her. I really want to help her but I don't know what to do other than be here. Any advice?
2007-03-02 14:27:13 · 4 answers · asked by brindlegirl 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry to hear about your mom's loss. Your just being there is a great help to her i'm sure. She has to grieve in her own way so just let her do that. If she wants to wait before giving things to his children then you will be the one to deal with that. sounds like you are doing all the right things. It gets a little harder after the funeral is over and the cleaning starts. Just let her know it is all in her timing. Milestone days will be hard too like birthday, anniversary and things like that. so be mindful of when they are coming. I hope my daughters are as thoughtful as you. My prayers are with you.
2007-03-02 15:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi brindle,
God bless you and your Mom at a time like this. I do know that there are any words that provide any comfort at times like this. Sometimes its best not to say anything at all and just hug her. Be there. It sounds like your doing a great Job of that now. Keep up the good work!!! It is only with time that things get easier in this case. Just be there!! God Bless
2007-03-02 22:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Elias 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is what you are doing. Be there for her. Tell her she can call you anytime, day or night, and that she can talk to you about anything. Support her. She is blessed to have you. Being her ally now in her time of need will help her more than you realize. But if you want to do one more thing for her- pray for her to be comforted and to be given strength to endure.
2007-03-02 22:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very recent ,she neeeds time to grieve.This is a process that cannot change rapidly.After say 6 months maybe get her to
date again.Take her somewhere with friends or family.You might try to look up grieving on the net.
2007-03-02 22:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋