he just died! help! help
2007-03-02 14:13:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ooo.... dad's have special places in there spirits where daughters are his hearts happiest memories...sons are a dads pride, daughters are his hearts weakness. What ever your grief and sorrow now seems, his spiritual place for you in the life he knew is a forever thing...undiminished ...undisturbed...unchanged.
The place a father is a 'dad', has little to do with dieing ...a dad is his kid's imagination...there memories hero...there secret most powerful resource...the assurance to meet every fear
You and your dad share your special-ness... he will forever be your companion , your champion, your guardian..
you will forever be his princess,.. his baby girl... his hearts lesson of love...
to understand that those immense emotions might just be HIM trying to love you through your sense of loss might be closer to truth, than to feel your morning as a pain unrelenting, only to someday realize he has loved you without fail...without pause..without interruption...without qualification.
try to love his many memories, his funny ways, his smiling face, his strong embrace, his voice, his look, his way of thinking,..
and you may find he is never far from where he has always been.. right where you have always found him..
2007-03-02 14:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by olddogwatchin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear the awful news...my dad too, when I was 10--in 1958. I saw the whole thing thru the eyes of a 10 year old--basically because no one had time for me---with all the preparations and ceremonies--just got lost in the shuffle. So if you are young, try to understand that even though it is a terrible loss--it is life---and we have to learn how to cope with these situations--I didn't want to be 10 any longer--I wanted out of that age and I started to be a pain in the butt. So make sure you get with the family, express yourself and communicate if you need to have any questions answered or a chance to vent your saddness. The grieving process is NATURAL--so grieve ithe loss--don't hide it--don't think you have to be brave--that is not the way to react--cry and cry till you find that you can move onto the next step--which is celebrating the life that he had---what he did and enjoyed---what he did with you and for you---certainly must have memories of him that are worth keeping. Remember he is in a place where there is no pain, no hurt, and can watch over you----waiting for that time we will all be together again. You will be expected to pull some weight in the family structure---so do the right thing--worry about family first--be there and be supportive--this is a tough time for EVERYONE---and people will be upset to the point where they may say or do inappropriate things---just don't take it all too seriously--just let it go--stay cool and calm. Now try to remember that this is life--as hard as this might be to accept and understand---it does happen. So remember to be nice, talk nice and act as if it just really might be the last time you see or talk to a person--try to leave them with happy memories----too many times we regret saying stuff or wished we said I love you---after it is too late to do so. Again, I am sorry to hear of your loss---stick to the family and be there for each other---but don't be afraid to show the emotions---he is always going to be looking after you --so keep looking up and be good.
2007-03-02 14:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll need the support of friends - not your computer and Yahoo answer friends. Real people to give you real hugs. Friends that can cry with you and grieve with you and let you lash out in anger or tears or whatever.
Hopefully your mom and other family members can be a support to you. Perhaps you could find a good counselor to talk with as a family. Let others know what role you want in the funeral or memorial service (if it isn't too late).
My 15 year old put together pictures and helped in the planning of her sister's memorial service 3 months ago and being active in it helped. She finds it helpful to talk with her cousins several times a week. May God comfort you and surround you with His love during this time.
2007-03-02 14:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this has happened. I know you must be in terrible emotional pain over losing your father. I will pray that God will send you the strength to deal with this loss. I send you hugs. Life is hard and gives us some really painful things to go through but you will be all right and some day, you will be able to smile when you remember the good things about your dad. Bless your heart!
2007-03-02 15:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,you need to stay in the company of friends or relatives you can talk to as the next few weeks will be a trial for you.They can support you as welll as help you move through the stages of grief you will feel.A counselor should be provided to you through your school so you can feel in control.Also take the time to do something your dad would have liked doing to give you the greatmemories he provided for you.Dont be afraid to have time to yourself in aplace he liked and have a good conversation with his spirit telling him how much you missed him,or loved him and that you will always have that one activity whether its baseball watching,fishing that activity from now on will be your secret time to talk to him about life.Do not depend on drinking or drugs to help as they will just slow down your grieving process and would disappoint him that you cant talk to him as if he was still here.If you are willing go see a spiritual guidance who can explain afterlife and the joys you may have had with your Dad.God bless you honey and keep your head up to face this time of trouble.
2007-03-02 14:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by freckles6771 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you. I don't know what I would do if my dad died. I would have a nervous breakdown, be depressed, not want to go on with life anymore, and hate life.
I have not been in your shoes yet so I don't know what it feels like to loose a father. What I can tell you though is he would be proud of you if were able to cope and be successful in life without him. He probally is looking down from heaven right now watching your every move and keeping you safe from harm . His spirit will always be with you, he will never leave you. He will always be there in your memory and your heart whenever you need him.
2007-03-02 14:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. My Dad died a long time ago and it hurt really bad. I was in shock for a while, but I just cried a lot and let myself grieve. But I remembered the good and happy times and it helped me to heal.
2007-03-02 14:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I am so deeply sorry, I do not know how you feel right now but if I can help, let me know. It all up to god now that your father is finally home. I know that you feel empty and probably your whole family, this is the good time for all of you to be close together. No one can really feel how someone can lost the most important person in their life.
Just hang in there, time will ease your pain, and if you think that you need someone to listen to you, I will be here, just contact me privately.......I'll be here for you................bless you!!
2007-03-02 15:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what to say, But U have to hang in there. U have to be there for UR mom. Be Strong If u believe in god praying with family helps I know I almost didn't make it in a car accident that i had over 2 years ago.
2007-03-02 14:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No One likes to see a family member died in a car crash , but you can be thankful he;s not para lazed ,although he passed away , I'm sure he will be missed deeply .
Family and Friends and socializing is what you need to help you get threw it , verses being alone and no one to talk to.
2007-03-02 14:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by dolores h 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋