My son has had some health problems and the doctor tells us not to have him around large crowds because of germs this time of the year.. so my husband and I decided to make it a grandparent only party and of course his big brother .. well and hour before the party mom and dad inlaw called and said they were sick which I don't belive because I think it was because all 5 of my husbands brother and sisters plus 10 kids wern't invited! I had already cooked and everything.. anyone else think they did wrong or am I over reacting... I just worry about my childs health! Should I say sonething to them?
2007-03-02 14:12:18 · 9 answers · asked by BlondGrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And my husband dont have the balls to say anything to his parents and they know about my sons health
2007-03-02 14:21:06 · update #1
his family stays sick ALL THE TIME!!!
2007-03-02 14:22:09 · update #2
Don't let it bother you. Your son will never remember, so it didn't hurt his feelings at all. I promise you he isn't upset about it.
Ignore it. Maybe they are uncomfortable with the health problems. I would just not invite them next time, or confirm with them the night before and specifically tell them that you need to know NOW if they will attend or not.
It's not worth creating stress over. If you have a sick child, he doesn't need to feel the tension in the air. Just forget about it, and be smug and satisfied with the fact that your parents are the better grandparents :)
2007-03-02 14:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..it's tough when it comes to inlaws. Let them know that your meal was spoiled and they could have called much earlier. They just didn't get sick 1 hr before the party. That's not right. You have every reason to be upset and they shouldn't get off the hook with it neither. Keep in mind it could cause a fight..but they'll get the point that what they did was rude
2007-03-02 14:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tina D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell my oldest kid is 11 and I never had an inlaw to come to their parties yet. And I have 5 kids for 2 men so enjoy your parties one thing about it you will be full you don't need to feed the world anyway. LOL but EASTER IS COMING UP AND PEOPLE DO COOK SO GO THERE AND EAT AND LET THEM KNOW THAT YOUR FOOD WAS GREAT AT THE PARTY THAT YOU HAD FOR YOUR CHILD THEY'LL GET THE IDEA.
2007-03-02 14:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by gettysdeemer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to create a big issue over this. Please don't. The family life is breaking down so bad. I see it everywhere. Let it go already. Keep the peace. You will feel so much better in the long run for having done so and your spouse can't help but be very prowd of you. God bless you.~~~Jill
Please don't stand in judgement of your husband or his parents. You also will be old one day and with that comes more illness.
2007-03-02 14:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't mention anything to them. I doubt that they were sick maybe they just made an excuse not to come because they felt it would cause contention in the family because others weren't invited.
If you say something to them it may offend them that you don't believe them and that may cause some family issues.
they may have been sick, or they may have felt a little sick and because your child has health problems they didn't want to take any chances.
2007-03-02 14:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by awadvice 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
perhaps they were protesting, you grandparents only party. You could ask them. Also if you feel that you have to protect your child, do not be selective, don't ask any one. That way no one or every one is offended. And to me a large crowd would be him going to the mall. not a family birthday party. But that is just me.
2007-03-02 14:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll never win this one so just let it go. Your son will never remember and won't be hurt by their lack of attendance. My in-laws didn't come to my house for months because they got mad about a similar situation. Their loss....not mine. If they are too stupid and unconcerned about the health of their grandchild then there is nothing you can say or do to make them understand.
2007-03-02 14:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i mean id understand if they didnt know the situation with what the doctor told you, you should do for them not going. But that is there grandson and should of showed up no matter what. I think you should tell ur husband to talk to his parents and make them understand the situation and telll them what they did wasent right.
2007-03-02 14:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 03:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋