if a guy you liked did everything he could just to make you smile and see you happy and told you everything perfect about you even your flaws he loved and left you secret suprises telling you how much he cared for you, could you really cheat on him and steal from him and lie to him if he loved you more then his own life? and what if she loved that guy too? how could a girl be so mean and inhumane couldnt she just have said i dont want to be with you any more instead of making a personal hell where good dreams turn into worst nightmares and memories turn you into everything youve ever hated? i thought girls liked guys who loved them for them, but apparently not...
2007-03-02 14:09:45 · 12 answers · asked by Matt W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if a guy you liked did everything he could just to make you smile and see you happy and told you everything perfect about you even your flaws he loved and left you secret suprises telling you how much he cared for you, could you really cheat on him and steal from him and lie to him if he loved you more then his own life? and what if she loved that guy too? how could a girl be so mean and inhumane couldnt she just have said i dont want to be with you any more instead of making a personal hell where good dreams turn into worst nightmares and memories turn you into everything youve ever hated? i thought girls liked guys who loved them for them, but apparently not...
o yes that guy is me, and i think thats not me even being a good boyfriend...
2007-03-02 14:26:52 · update #1
You sound like a nice guy who deserved a lot better than you got. And she sounds like a girl not mature enough for a real and meaningful relationship with another person. It hurts, and it will for a little while until you get wrapped up in other things in your life and/or meet someone new.
Take away from this experience the awareness that you might be someone who tends to be attracted to manipulative girls like this one. Don't let it become a relationship pattern for you. Love is always going to be a risk. It is for everyone. Be thankful you saw her true colors and got away from her now, before you turned it into something life-long.
Relationships teach you something about yourself as well as other people. If you learn how to spot the users and avoid them, one small good something will have come out of your pain.
In the meantime, get involved in something else, whatever interests you, and you'll forget her more easily. And then one day, you'll meet someone else--but don't judge her by this bad experience. Give her a chance. Just as there are guys like you, there are nice, caring girls out there too. You'll meet one.
2007-03-02 14:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Mat, as a guy, I think I can tell you from experience, that maybe she's brainwashed and family controlled- prhaps even on memory suppression pills. It's unfortunate, unconstitutional, immoral and even illegal, but there are some women in the world, who are like that. And their controlling, self contradictory, lying family wont admit anything. My ex was such a girl. But I hope that you and I both find a new gf, soon.
2007-03-02 14:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG who ever that guy is i wish he was were i was he is the sweetest thing ever and that girl i dont see how she can do that i guess she doesnt deserve him i dont know who would ever do that to someone as sweet as him but i guess she doesnt really love him and if he thinks about taking her back i would slap him and tell him no no you cant take her back she isnt for you that is only if i was his really good buddy tho lol welll hope he can find someone way better for him
2007-03-02 14:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by youcantseeme2976 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matt, you sound young. You need to know that women are evil. That is just what they do. They wonder why no men treats them well, but you answer that. You have to figure out that all of the good girls are with assholes. Be an asshole Matt. Then you will be fine.
2007-03-02 14:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by jomama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy gave too much of himself making it easy for the girl to take advantage of his kindness/generosity/love. Next time, just don't give more than the other person is willing to give. Love involves give and take, not give and give, and not take and take on either party's side.
2007-03-02 14:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You;ll get used to b*tches like that.... just give yourself some time and you'll end up as jaded and pessimistic as I am
2007-03-02 14:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds similar to the story of my life squared
2007-03-02 14:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be young and she just doesn't kno what she's got. But maybe she's just not worth it, and you obviously have a lot to offer and any girl would be lucky to have someone like you.
2007-03-02 14:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ah.........the word love is used way too soon in relationsihps.
And if you figure out that a girl can't be trusted, then you can't trust her words of love either.
Next time be more cautious
2007-03-02 14:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you describe the perfect guy. so that girl that threw away all that is gonna kick herself years later when she got a jerk.
2007-03-02 14:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋