What do you do if your child can not control her temper?

Question

easily get mad, insecured

Answer 1

In our province we have Drop-in centers that have free parenting seminars available. I have found these to be invaluable as I have a seven year old that likes to have hissy fits too.
The most important thing I have learned is to model good anger control for her and talk through the tantrums instead of getting swept up in them. You will show her how to effectively communicate her feelings without getting in trouble or hurting other's feelings.
I hope that helps!

Answer 2

my kid had this problem. I told her to punch her pillow. To write it out. To tear up newspaper. To run laps around the yard. I would not tolerate violence in my house. I raised her punishment for voilence and wrecking things in the house to a punishment that she totally hated, which made her more mad. Then when she realized that I would consisitenly do this punishment every time, she suddenly stopped her temper. I didn't know how she got the control. Then one day I found a paper and she had written 'my mommy is mean! My mommy doesn't play with me! My mommy hits me!' lol, none of that is true, but she was venting! Now she also will stomp to her room to cry it out. She is only seven. I am very proud of her for finding an avenue. Getting mad can be just who they are... it is a matter of how you let it out.

Answer 3

the best thing you can possibly do is to simply not take part!
if your child engages an adult in a temper tantrum, they are getting attention from that adult and interacting with that adult.
If the adult refuses to be drawn in and simply turns away or sits there being calm and peaceful (depending on the ferocity of the tantrum of course. don't just sit there whilst your child beats seven shades of crap out of you) then the tantrum becomes no fun and is quickly forgotten about.
All this depends very much on the age of the child but, as long as they are safe from personal harm, (and i mean physical harm not mental harm brought about by feelings of rejection, that's ridiculous!) then just leave them to get on with it.

Answer 4

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