SO MY FRIEND IS GOING OUT WITH THIS GUY THAT TREATS HER LIKE CRAP! I TOLD HER TO BREAK UP WITH HIM AND SHE SAID NO BC SHE IS IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY THAT CHEATED ON HER 3 TIMES AND SAYS HE LOVES HER WHEN HE DOESNT MEAN IT!!!!!!!!! I WANT TO HELP HER BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO SHES ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR ME WHEN MY BFS WERE TREATING ME LIKE CRAP! BUT I LISTENED TO HER BEFORE IT GOT "FO REAL"(SERIOUS) AND NOW HER RELATIONSHIP IS WAY OUT OF CONTROL SHE NEEDS MY LOVE AND HELP BUT SHE WONT LISTEN SHES LIKE HEAD OVER HEALS FOR THIS GUY! WAT SHOULD I DO?
2007-03-02 13:27:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they have been going out for 3 months
2007-03-02 13:33:27 · update #1
This is very common problem.
like the one guy said, there is nothing you can do. Every attempt you make will lessen your friendship with her.
Just be glad your not the one.
Watch and learn , it will hlp you to avoid similar situation.
just dont give in and hang out with the two of them, its ok to let her know you have other plans. She just may get the hint and realize she may lose your friendship if she doesnt drop the bumm
2007-03-02 13:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this, let her be. She must be really young, maybe Teenager/early 20s? All the women I've dated went through idiot boyfriends. They realize it later in their 20s or because the majority of women want a bad boy type. If you're nice, then you are boring. I'm not saying all women, but alot of my female friends and all my girlfriends fell in this category. They start to realize in their late 20s that a nice guy is really all they want.
My current girlfriend who is my ex every other day is a total ***** to me when I'm nice to her. When I'm mean to her, she fights back and we end up walking away from each other. But she always comes back sweet and nice until the next fight, which occurs several days later. Her mom told me last night that she treated all her nice boyfriends like total crap and ended up running back to this one guy who was physically abusive.
In the end, I'm the idiot for sticking around, but I have a feeling she'll come around and realize that I'm a nice guy and that I truly love her. Your friend will come around, but there is nothing you can do either than stop being there for her when she tells you the same sob story for the 10,000 time. Only after that will she realize that she is losing a great friend over a total loser.
2007-03-02 21:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by gotham158 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get her to see his real colors. I would suggest getting other people who see him for what he is and get them to tell her as well. And probably the best thing to do is get her to catch him when he is doing something like cheating on her or point out when he is treating her like crap. Good luck, guys that treat women this way don't deserve anybody especially not a good girl.
2007-03-02 21:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by jordanred17_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy really sucks! all i think you can do is tell her 3 times he has cheated, maybe a person can forgive someone once but 3 times is way out of order.She has to see that you just want what is best for her,and that if he loved her, then why does he treat her like crap.
hope things work out
2007-03-02 21:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by throw_away_your_television_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is always difficult. girls seem to get "brainwashed" by these terrible guys very easily and in short, thats not good. shes obviously in a horrible relationship, which you know, and deep down she knows, but doesnt want to realize it. shes in denial. so sit down with her, if youre best friends with her you should can figure out a way to make her listen. and knock some sense into the woman. DONT let her leave unconvinced, but make sure YOU are convinced she will be leaving this unfaithful dirtbag ASAP.
good luck!!
2007-03-02 21:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by d_mary91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been a very good friend to her already. The problem is, she is not listening to your advice.
Friends are here to give advices but it will always depends on the person you're giving advice if they will put it into actions or not.
In the end, its still going to be their decision, not ours.
You have done your part. Just hope and pray that she will be enlightened to what she is doing.
2007-03-02 21:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by sharkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can really help her. Chances are she will either decide to wake up one day and stand up for herself, or she will be forever attracted to this guy no matter what he does.
Chances are she is attracted to him because he is a bad boy... what she doesn't realize is she deserves better. Help her frind a nice guy who can get bad every once in a while.
2007-03-02 21:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has it like that for him, im sorry to say theres nothing you can do now.
if she will not listen you must back off for now or she will end up resenting you and your friendship will be ruined.
What you can do as a friend is be there for her, when she realizes that the guy is a dumba$$ and shes a stupid a$$ for being with him. You gotta be thier to convince her that shes not stupid and to comfort her.
but for now all you can do it wait
2007-03-02 21:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by not me but you 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why don't you explain to her what he is doing behind her back and if that dosent work take her somewhere where her BF is going alone or with some other people and saty out of site and see if he is cheating on her
2007-03-02 21:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend's self-esteem is in the toilet. She figures she doesn't deserve anything better than this loser. Her emotional problems may be beyond your ability to help her. Just be there for her when it happens again, and it will.
2007-03-02 21:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋