i live with my boyfriend, i don't want to ever get married, many people said marriage bring extra commitment but is it really true? people can still get out a marriage by DIVORCE, its actually pretty easy, also if you are in a happy marriage its no difference than a happy live in relationship, but if you are in a BAD marriage you will have extra problem of getting out, e,g assets split, divorce fee, paperwork etc, it just bring more misery in your life, whereis if you live in with your partern you can just walk away, so i think marriage brings same intimacy as live in relationship but lots of headache if you want to split, is that right?
2007-03-02 13:18:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Anyone that thinks divorce is easy is dillusional.
In the state of Florida, a non-contested divorce where the participants worked everything out on their own and just hired an attorney for one to draw up the papers costs upwards of $3200 and takes three to four months. And that's really cheap. Most family attorneys charge retainer fees higher than that.
And I think marriage does bring intimacy and commitment not found in live in relationships. For one, you both know the other can't just walk out. That encourages you to work things out that live in partners will often just throw their hands up and quit. For another, to have the monetary commitment from the other person shows just how important you are to them. They are willing to pay to keep you, versus just keeping you around as long as it's cheap and easy.
Then there's the little fact that if you ever accidentally end up pregnant, when you're not married, he can bolt and leave you high and dry to take care of the kid.
2007-03-02 13:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just looking at how to get out...not what you can gain from marriage. Getting married isn't about making plans on what your gonna do if you have a bad day, week or month. When you marry someone you are making a pledge to be with them, only them come what may. Bad marriages happen....I really don't believe that people plan that, sometimes divorce is the only answer, and sometimes it's just an easy way out or an escape. If you don't want to be married, that's fine. Not all people are ready or willing to be married. Just as all people are not cut out to be parents. Live your life, be happy, and be open to change or new ideas...maybe when your older your opinions will change. That happens too. Best wishes...
2007-03-02 14:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on many factors. If you are both still young and there are no children involved, you are probably fine where you are.
Legal entanglements get involved when you have situations like Anna Nicole and that girl in Florida who became a vegetable because of an accident, the significant other runs into problems.
Marriage means a commitment to take care of the significant other in full. This could cause your other to run away when confronted, and in fact, that is always an open option which is probably cool for him and maybe for you for now.
If you do not have children yet, hopefully you do not get pregnant and find out later he is not cool with that. Don't wait too long to find out. Used goods and much time spent.
It is a gamble life style. Be careful and good luck!
2007-03-02 13:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by ringolarry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage more than anything is a solemn promise to be together and to love each other until death.
Perhaps people don't always keep their promises in good faith and there is a lot of avoidable divorce.
But still, a promise is a promise. Most honest people try to keep their promises. And this makes marriage a more secure relationship than simply living together without any solemn promises.
When there are no promises to keep, then people don't feel any obligation to work things out. And they can move away from each other at the first or the second sign of trouble, without even trying to make the relationship work.
2007-03-02 13:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is real, believe me. It becomes an illusion when the other person on a marriage is not doing his/her part in making the relationship work.
If you think that marriage is not for you, then that is fine and i hope your boyfriend respects that.
Yes, marriage can be a headache and it can really make people crazy, if its not for you, it really is not for you...
But do not be afraid to be commited to someone, i hope eventually, you'll get over your phobia of commitment.
It takes to tango as they say, just like a committed relationship.
2007-03-02 13:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by MissTaray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What motivation does he could make a dedication, if his existence is so good now and has been for 3+ years. He has you; you're by potential of his component on each and every occasion mandatory or wanted; and doubtless even cleansing up after him. there'll consistently be "a bump interior the line" that is a deterrent to getting married. it fairly is why you detect somebody to marry. they are those you carry directly to and journey out those tough spots jointly. in case you like that form of risk-free practices, you're able to positioned out for him. no rely if it fairly is not what he needs, then you definately could discover somebody who needs the comparable issues you do. a marriage... a house...A kin...profession secondary
2016-10-17 03:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i agree that marriage is just an illusion if the committment is not there to begin with marriage is not going to change it once my huband and i got married nothing changed but now we have the same last name
2007-03-02 13:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by christie d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋