Almost a year ago, my boyfriend had cheated on me. I caught him myself. A bunch of friends of ours went out that night to the bar. Yes, we had a few drinks. The minute we walk into the bar he said hi to this girl, they stayed talking while the rest of us had fun. I felt that I shouldnt have to babysit him. Well I put my arm around him a few times, gave him kisses; I had seen this girl before so I thought no harm...right. Well I went outside with my good friend, and she asked me where my man was. We decided to go back inside. No sight of him. The first words from her mouth were, " oh my gosh, I am so sorry" Intuition led me into him with this other girl outside behind the bar. I freaked out. With a little alcohol I became more than just outraged. Well after my heart sank into the depths of nothingness, I became numb. I stayed with him. Though days passed I still thought about it and I would feel anger and so much more, but now it's like an everyday torture. I still love him. Im lost.
2007-03-02 13:16:09 · 10 answers · asked by golden1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I CAN HELP U GET EVEN! =D
We can make a video and send it to him, lol
2007-03-02 13:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by CRAYZICUZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a difficult question and my answer probably won't be the one you want to hear. I think in general, once a cheater always a cheater. I went through a similar situation and took back someone who cheated. Even though it didn't happen again for a couple of years, it happened nonethless. I have come to believe that I am worth more than that. Even though I may think some guy is gorgeous, I don't act on those impulses because I care about the person I am with. He should have acted the same.
2007-03-02 13:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably do not want to hear this...but any man who will cheat on you is NOT worth your time or affection! If he will cheat now...imagine a few years down the road, maybe toss a mortgage and a couple of kids and a few extra lbs on you into the equation. NO ONE, male or female, should tolerate a cheater. How do you know this was the only time? Pretty ballsy to do it with you there! And what about the STD's that he could pack home? I would KICK HIM TO THE CURB, walk away with your HEAD HELD HIGH. Good luck, you deserve better!!!
2007-03-02 13:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you will never be able to f orget whayt he did to you and you will always live with it while your with him. i can tell you love him and im really sorry for what happened. i know exactly how you feel and i got cheated on 2 years ago and everytime i think of what he did to me i hate him so much. Ever since he did that to me i am jealous,insecure, and lost all my trust in him. I am still with him but the reason for that is because weve been married and have a 2yr. old. Also he has changed and i know this for a fact. all i can say is try to let the past be the past and move on if u feel he changed.
2007-03-02 13:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with him. Does he admit to it and is he sorry for hurting you? If he isn't sorry for it and tries to deny it you probably should leave him. You haven't forgiven him so it must be hard on you. There is no greater pain than knowing and catching him in the act of cheating, it broke your heart and is very hard to just erase the pain and the memory. My bf done that when i was 7 months preg with our first child and it took me so many years to trust him again and to get over the pain.
In the end i couldn't touch him without thinking about it so i split with him for a while and made him earn my love, trust and respect back and he tried very hard to get me back. You need to tell him exactly how you feel, he didn't think twice about hurting you so tell him exactly what's up and make him work on fixing it. He screwed up not you make him earn it all back!
2007-03-02 13:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question. if it is torture to stay with him then get out. Life is too short to live unhappy. If you leave and you and him are truly in love you will eventually get back together but let me tell you from experience that once a cheater always a cheater.if he really had feelings for you he would have never cheated on you.
2007-03-02 13:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u won't get over it unless u are allowed to talk about your hurt, unless he has admitted what he did was wrong and a mistake, and promises he will never do it again. your still angry because u haven't been allowed to deal with it, he probably showed no remorse, and instead of facing it it just got swept under the rug. u may love him but once trust is gone, u can't go back to it feeling the same, the relationship will be forever altered. and u may be wondering when is it going to happen to me again?
2007-03-02 13:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either choose to trust him or you don't. You choose to believe that he won't do that again. Every time you begin to wonder about it, you remind yourself that you chose to trust him and you are going to do that.
Your other option is to leave him.
2007-03-02 13:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trust is broken. You can trust him to cheat on you again. Move on.
2007-03-02 13:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating proves you arent human, i dont even now how people can do it. it makes me sick
2007-03-02 13:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Matt W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋