hi i am 27 year old girl, working full time, i love my career, i live my bf for 2 years, i love him to death, i really don't want to change my situation, i don't want a baby as it will drastically change my way of life, i konw people say they never regret having baby, but i know its just a lie, their life changes after babies, they probably regret but as if they will admit it?! i am not interested in ever change my life style, i just want to live with my boyfriend forever, without marriage, without baby, if we ever break up, i will find my next love and ENJOY LIFE, am i normal to think like this?
2007-03-02 12:41:29 · 29 answers · asked by df a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Plenty of people life fulfilling lives, and they don't have children. Children just aren't for everyone... some people want them, some dont. Completely [NORMAL]
2007-03-02 12:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by babyleo91_09 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for YOU to think this way, and it is perfectly okay. I would be sure to let my boyfriend know that if I were you, because if he wants to eventually have a family with children he may want to pursue another relationship.
As far as thinking people regret having children but probably wont admit it...you are wrong. Do not begin to assume what anyone else thinks about having children. I personally am a single mother (soon to be married). I had my son at 27 several years after finishing college and establishing myself firmly in my career, and it was the perfect time in my life to become a mother. I enjoyed my life fully as a young adult and was ready for the joys and challenges of bringing up a child. It is not easy to always have to arrange a sitter or whatever in order to go out, but he is sooooooo worth it.
Anyway, I have never regretted it, and I thoroughly enjoy my life and feel fulfilled by it. Yes, your life changes when you have a child, but your life also changes when you have a boyfriend, a spouse, and a new job. As long as you can roll with the changes you will be fine. If you want to remain childless...do so...it is your right, and there is nothing wrong with honestly knowing it and feeling it. Good luck with your life.
2007-03-02 12:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby unexpectedly, I was 19 when I got pregnant, and I HONESTLY do not regret it at all. Of course it changed my life drastically, but that's normal. If you don't want to have a kid that is your decision, I guess it's 'normal'. Some people don't have kids, and I bet a lot of the people who don't regret not having any more than the people who do have kids.
Maybe when you get a bit older you will change your mind and your maternal clock will start ticking....you never know
2007-03-03 04:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by scootkat84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants different things and that said if you dont want a baby then don't be a sheep and keep doing what YOU want.
My friend had a baby that was unplanned and I can see how much it has changed her life. She didn't care if she never had children and doesnt regret it but her life has changed alot.
I on the other hand would be miserable if i never marry and have a family but would go out and adopt if i had to!!
It's up to you what you want in your life and everyone has different priorities. right now I am enjoying career and can see children in my future. if you are enjoying partnership and career and can only see that in your future then thats what will be if you want it to be!
Best of luck :-)
2007-03-02 12:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by ppl_tell_me_im_insane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some woman are desperate to have their own mini me's, you aren't. If you don't have a maternal side then that is your own decision. I am 28 and have 3 children and i love them but also wonder where my life would be now had i not had any ( didn't plan kids) You have every right not to have kids if you don't want them. If you are happy with your life the way it is that is all that matters. Go have fun and enjoy life.
2007-03-02 13:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13 and my mom was 18 when she had me and says she regrets the time in her life but doesn't actually regret me. 5 years later I got my half-sister. She HATED kids even when she was one of them,she would pinch babies when they cried (her mom was in the daycare buisness). Now if she's in a situation where a baby's crying in a restaurant or in Disneyland she knows how to cheer them up.
PS- She's a black-jack dealer at the Palms Casino in Las Vegas.
And has to work 3-12pm and STILL has time to juggle having a job,boyfriend,taking care of her mother, and still has time to go to school talent shows and other events!
2007-03-02 13:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by poobear2710 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal for the way of life you want. Don't let others make you feel bad. It is better not to have a baby if you really don't want one. I know several women that feel the way you do and seem very happy. Life your life the way you want too.
2007-03-02 13:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 21 and didnt plan to have a baby when i got pregent i didnt want to have a baby until i was about your age. yes your life changes alot. I got pregent when i was19. It made my life alot harder. the way i think of it know is im kinda glad that im i ayoung mother so that i would be able to understand my son as he gets older. Everything that i do i do it for him and its crazy cuz i have never loved anybody the way i love my baby and it feels good to have my own family. i understand u and ur mormal everybody has there own ways if thinking and if your bf loves you he will respesct and understand ur decision.
2007-03-02 14:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted children (after being one of six). I felt my mom had to make to many sacrifices to raise us.
This is a decision I haven't regretted. My career and spouse got plenty of attention, plus I had time to develop my interests. Fortunately my parents had plenty of grandchildren so they never pressured me to have children.
I retired at 55, and have been having a great time enjoying life (no kids to put through college or worry about their life problems).
You don't have to have children just because your friends are.
2007-03-02 13:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing abnormal about wanting what we want. You can't help or control it so whatever you want is what's right for you. There are tons of women who don't want babies. Choosing to put your career is one of the most common reasons but there are lots of different ones. Some people just dont want the responsiblility of another human being relying on them 24/7. There is no "norm" for the way we live our lives.
2007-03-02 12:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋