tell her i have feelings for her when she already has a boyfriend?
i know she's into him a lot, but he doesn't seem to care a whole lot about her
2007-03-02 12:40:47 · 34 answers · asked by Rock 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'm sorry if this sounds like a cliche, but...if she's a true friend, you won't lose her. If may be a little strange for a while, but if you're committed to each other, you will find a way to work through things. If you don't tell her how you feel about her, it will put a strain on the friendship; if you can't be completely honest with somebody, how deep is the friendship? I say tell her; honesty is always best.
2007-03-02 12:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Just My Opinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't take a chance there will never be one. I remember I never took the chance and I still doubted it, and it's been years. I knew we liked each other but was too scared to take the chance, I know now that if I did take the chance it would have been better than doubting, but too afraid of good things to come true. First, do you think she is into you? Spend more time with her to figure it out and impress her. Also, if you think it the right thing and could be if you are really close, maybe write her a note of how you feel (girls like that). Ask if she feels the same way, but tell her you would still want to be friends even if she is undecide or won't want to, but there could be many reasons so don't take it too personal. If it was meant to be, like it be. Hope this helps
2007-03-02 13:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by scorpiontiger00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I do not think it is a good idea to tell her you like her if she has a boyfriend. I could see if she was single, but she might think that you want to break up her and her bf. Just stay her friend if you are hoping that she will leave the guy. You can't change how she feels, but why hang around if she is into him. Go and try to get with someone who is interested in you and who is available. Why go after someone who is taken and is into someone else? Come on..you are better than that! Go find some single girls out there.......
2007-03-02 13:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough call bud. I would not make my move until things were absolutely over. Here's why. If you do manage to say win her over and gain a lover, great. But I believe in karma and one day you may find yourself in that situation as her current boyfriend. Someone else may think they can do better than you and move in on your new relationship.
Also you run the risk of damaging a friendship if she does not like you like that. There may always be that discomfort between the two of you. Let things play out. I know it sucks just sitting back knowing you can treat her better but just hang tight till the right moment. Good luck and be the best friend and listener she needs right now.
2007-03-02 12:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by EddieRasco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is huge potential for a disaster here, tell her and risk rejection, don't tell her and you will never know what could have been. One thing is for sure, don't tell her how you feel about her boyfriend. Perhaps you need to casualy ask if she would ever be interested in you if her current relationship falls over. Most great relationships start out as friends and grow so, keep cultivating the friendship and see if it blooms.
2007-03-02 12:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by montyscan01 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From my experience i believe you won't lose a friend, but she will probably be surprised when you tell her this. If she is a true friend she will accept what you said and tell how she feels about the situation and continue talking to you. If she's not really your friend you'll find out by if she says i think we shouldn't be friends anymore or gets a nasty attitude about the whole situation
2007-03-02 12:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by arbrdeco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might man. It is the roll of the dice.
You can't help people who don't want to helped. I'd shy away from doing that for another time.
3 situations:
1. she'll be a little taken back by it and tell you she has a boyfriend.
2. She'll be turned off by you because, if she's as into him as you say, then she might see you as someone who might be trying to butt in.
3. She tells her boyfriend and you two throw down.
2007-03-02 12:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her about your feelings for her. Sooner or later she will see that she is hooked up with a guy who isn't so good for her. Tell her what you have to offer her: attention, kindness, friendship, laughs, and see what she thinks. Never, never give up a chance to connect with a lady if you feel something special between the two of you. Best of luck to you and the maybe gf!!
2007-03-02 12:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this girl then go and talk to her alone. Explain what you are feeling and tell her that you will be better than that guy she has now. If she doesn't end up going out with you, then move on to better things. Good Luck with everything!!
2007-03-02 12:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how wil u know if u goin to lose her if ur not gonna try...its better to try and fail than not at all and regret it for the rest of ur life....if shes really ur friend she wil understand how u feel bout her..and its only natural to develop such feeling specially wen ur close to each other....well one thing..u cant tel her that u think her boyfriend doesnt seem to care that much bout her..coz she might goin to accuse u that bcoz u like her thats why ur thinkin that way...just always be nice and be there for her no matter what..who knows at the end maybe u and her wer ment for each other...goodluck!!!!!
2007-03-02 12:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by suarez_stacey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋