i'm dating a guy who i've been seeing for almost 9 months. we knew eachother for 2 weeks when we first slept together. i am now 3 months pregnant and he tells me that he wants to marry me eventually. he's the most awesome guy i've ever met, much less been with. a keeper is what everybody tells me. his family is in texas and he hardly talks to them, he's the oldest of 4 siblings including 2 sisters and a brother, who he talks about all the time. he has a 2 year old son already and is very involved in his life. the problem is family seems to be very important to him, so why hasn't he called his mom or emailed his sister and told them the news about me expecting? i think i am resenting him because of this and in turn, sabotaging the relationship. i feel i hardly know him, but i love him like crazy and i'm having his baby! and i think i have a huge jealousy issue, i freak out when he talks to other girls (which he HAS to do cause of the people he works with). HELP!
2007-03-02 12:31:56 · 6 answers · asked by poppit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is true that you hardly know him. There are people who are married for decades and don't really know each other. You don't say if he talks much about his childhood or of he has any communication with his family. It does seem as though there is something he is choosing to omit.
If you REALLY love him, then you trust him. So have faith that there is a good reason for his lack of communication with his family. He will have conversations with other females over the course of his lifetime, and it is possible that some of them will be attracted to him and maybe try to make a move. Again, it comes down to TRUST. You have to believe that he is dedicated to your relationship and your new family.
You need to determine whether your jealousy stems from insecurities you have about yourself (such as thinking you're not good enough for him), OR whether it stems from some gut instinct that he is hiding something and is not who he portrays himself to be. You have a very real deadline to come to this realization, because it is not only your life at stake.
2007-03-02 12:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why he hasnt informed his family? You need to let him know it bothers you that he hasnt. You are very emotional right now because of the baby, and you are insecure and afraid. I understand completely. You are scared to death of losing this guy and being left alone with the baby. Do you have family around you for support? or any friends to talk to? You have to think about the kind of bf he is. Is he serious about marrying you? Does he treat you good? Does he take good care of you?? If so, then you have nothing to worry about. If he is a liar and a cheat, then you need to make a plan in case this doesnt work out. Only you know the truth. In 9 months you should have a pretty good idea if he is a good man or not. If he is, then just relax and enjoy your upcoming motherhood. congratulations.
2007-03-02 12:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that he is the father of your baby, but don't doom yourself to a relationship where you and the baby are not top priority. You both deserve to be number one in his life.
I don't blame you for this resentment. You are entitled to some recognition here, by him informing his family of your situation.
You should tell him your honest feelings about this, and see what his reaction is. Don't feel guilty, because you have a right to be angry about this. I don't usually condone jealousy, but this situation is different. If you don't like his reaction when you tell him your feelings you should consider that he might not be as wonderful as you think. Remember during the first year of dating you are seeing things through rose-colored glasses, and your friends and family might be too. They are just trying to be supportive after-all. Good luck and always be honest with him!
2007-03-02 12:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hon- no offense, yet at the start you have have been given to quit being so dramatic. it does no longer kill you to lose her. you could bypass on which comprise your youthful existence and at last you could the two meet somebody else. You gf informed you techniques the jealousy is affecting her. you should instruct her admire with the help of listening to her. If she is asserting she would be able to't cope anymore you're inflicting her countless grief. If I have been her mom or chum i could tell her to concentrate of a youthful guy as possessive as you sound. you're saying you won't be able to help the way you sense - yet confident- you could. Use your strategies to regulate your emotions. bear in mind you 2 have in simple terms been a pair for 8 weeks- you at the instant are not married. you're saying that's your first relationship. possibly you at the instant are not somewhat mature sufficient for a relationship yet. loosen up. attempt to easily savor having relaxing and awesome out which comprise your chum.
2016-10-02 07:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by federica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let jealousy ruin your relationship! Be secure and know that when he says he loves you he really truly loves you. And definitely don't be jealous of his family because one day they may be your family too!! Guys don't get in any big hurry to tell their family when their girlfriend is pregnant so don't freak out about that. Good luck to you and I hope you have a very happy healthy baby
2007-03-02 12:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you can ruin your relationship. Have a calm talk with him and ask him why he hasn't yet given his family the news. Maybe you will learn something you didn't know before. Ultimately, it shd be a couple's mutual decision I think....about when to tell. So you should talk to him. I have a feeling he is sincere, and you don't need to get jealous. Stay emotionally stable, be there for him and his family, and he will like you more for it. Take care..
2007-03-02 12:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋