How would you approach someone who is introverted (meaning very independent)? If you are attracted to a male who seems to be introverted, or you know for sure he doesn't say much, would you even say anything to him or try to get a date if you think he is attractive? Would you expect him to come to you even though he would have a hard time doing so? Are introverted people destined to be alone?
2007-03-02 12:21:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol....introverted does not mean very independent.
It means extremely shy, and though you may find someone who's willing to take you on as a project, and that wouldn't be someone like me, as I like "personality & confidence".
I should think the better question for you to ask is "how can I break out of my shell and get a personality".
Read anyone of the 10 million questions/answers asking ladies what do we like in a man...9 out of 10 of us go for personality before anything else.
2007-03-02 12:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am an introverted person. Introverts are not necessarily independent, but they are often shy. An introvert is a person that lives much of their life "on the inside" meaning that they think a great deal about things that are going on. There isn't anything wrong with this. It is like any other set of behaviors in that it has pros and cons. The pros are that introverted people often understand themselves better and are more in touch with their own emotions. This may also extend to a better understanding of others. The down side is that introverted people tend not to learn how to or be interested in talking to others.
An introverted person may also have self esteem issues.
Other people, men and women, like and admire confidence. So a shy person may get less respect and attention because of this simple preference.
Instead of thinking of yourself as doomed to loneliness, think of it a learning challenge. You need to learn how talk to people more. How do you do that? There are books on the subject. "The Art of Verbal Self Defense", or "How to win friends and influence people." You can practice. It isn't always going to go well. But use that introverted mind of yours to puzzle out the mistakes and do better.
As you practice, your confidence in the matter will grow. Even if you fail. This is because you will see that the failures are not as terrible as you imagined.
You may never completely comfortable with it, but no one is asking you personally to be the ultimate extrovert. Life is about learning, so go learn something that will add some value to your life.
2007-03-03 04:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by bsandyman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not destined to be alone! It's just that life is harder for us introverted people, because we get alone sometimes. That's it. Nothing more than this, it's very simple.
2007-03-02 12:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by new in town 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Money is the key in Asia. You can have 2 heads and 5 arms but an Asian woman, in general, would be still interested in you if you were financially capable of taking care of her. Marriage here is seen as more of a job, and survival, than a love bond. You only have to live here to see that.
2016-03-16 03:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lady, but I would sorta think this would need to be handled in an extroverted kinda way. No, you ain't destined to be alone, especially when you're with other people.
2007-03-02 14:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a introvertive man. They approached me when I was NOT ready.
2007-03-02 12:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Gone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel .. thats the best you could do.
or you could get to know him first... who is destined to be so alone?
2007-03-02 12:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor Simon, he feels the same way. If they dont come up to you then you go up to them. What do you have to lose?
2007-03-02 12:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Livin it 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋