my girl friend is lazy, don't cook,clean and don't want to have sex?

Question

at the begining avery thing was right she had a beautiful coca cola bottle body themmmm... those days. we go out almost avery weekend and sex almost every day. but any way we decided to move together and now is almost 4 years we have a son. when we moved together i came to find out her true color, she don't cook, clean, or sex any more, all she do is sleep and watch tv all day. i come from work and i'am starting to cooking, cleaning. some time i wonder if i'am a woman, if just don't know if i should dump her hang in there. but the funny part is that i bought her engagement ring 9 month ago, i still have i don't know if i should propose to her or quit because of my son. don't get me wrong i'am good looking man and very high self esteem. i'am just loyal to her i don't want to cheat. but it's comming. thank you for reading my situation by the way ladies i can cook baby

Answer 1

muary

you can cook thats sexy!!!!!!! ;)

Answer 2

Your first mistake was moving in together without the benefits of marriage. Your second mistake was bringing a child into this situation. But none the lest there is the child. He doesn't deserve a dirty, unclean, or unstable environment. Since you say you have very high self esteem, than why do you let her treat you that way. Why don't you tell her to get up off her lazy but, cook, and keep your house clean or else you are out of there with your child. Make sure you take pictures of the way she keeps house. And document her reaction to your ultimatum. Also line up witnesses for the court battle over child. Tell her you can't live like this and you want. It is not about the sex man. It's about this inocent that you brought into this world. She also might have some issues going on. You need to find out, what's up. If you say it wasn't always that way than what caused it to change. Did you cheat on her? I don't think we are getting the whole story.

Answer 3

If you have a problem with her then you need to talk to her about it. Be a mature adult and have the conversation. Please don't get married simply because you have a child together, if you two don't love each other then it will not be good for your child. If your son is old enough to put in pre-school then maybe your girlfriend needs to get a job.
I am a stay at home mom, and before I went back to school I thought I would go crazy from boredom. I hated being at home all day and I got into a funk and didn't want to do anything but sit and watch tv. Sometimes staying at home is hard mentally because you don't have the stimulation that people with jobs have. Maybe she is depressed and needs an outlet for herself, even a part time job may help.
Before you give up on the relationship you should really talk things over with her and see if you can change things together. Not every woman is Suzy Homemaker.
Best of luck.

Answer 4

How does a woman loose all feeling below her neck.....you put a ring on her finger......I know that sounds terrible how ever its true.... its the best way to wreck a sex life.... its like this while you are dating she is trying her best to catch you but once she has you she has no need to impress you. remember the oral sex?remember the parties and the long walks and the gobs of attention?? How about how she magically liked every thing you liked......put a ring on the finger or have a kid...... you have expirienced the shift of power this woman now has control of your $$ your free time and your heart. Her new tools are divorce/separation,sex, guilt, temper and societies new ethics(women have more rights than men....a mans castle and children and gold are no longer his own)....she has you by the short hairs...... believe you me if you left her she would use her new leverage... the kid ....and she would make you hurt through the wallet........ heres the truth.... yes amongst the bitterness there is a morsel of truth........ most people do not put the amount of effort in to their current relationships as the would a new affair / relationship........they demand and treat terribly the current amore and worship the new lover.... if she would treat you as she did when you were dating you would have no complains right??..... one thing you may not have realized is the child is now #1... you may not even finish in the same race... when females have children the common occurance is they put the child first replacing the father/husband. this is the #2 reason for affairs the #1 is selfishness. one last thing to know .... men expect things to remain the same...women expect change....either one is highly unlikely....

Answer 5

well i think your a little hung up on yourself. yes she is lazy. if she ain't working and just being a house wife but in your casue not a wife yet that is here job to do that. im a house wife i do all the cooking, cleaning, bill paying, shopping, yard work etc. sometimes he does help with lunches cleaning and this and that. but just because you are the only one that works still don't give you the right not to have to do anything. you see her true colors and if she don't want to improve on them and then you have to do what you got to do. dump her. she wouldn't like it if the shoes was on the other foot. a person can only take so much and your about to boil over. you need to tell her want she needs to be doing and it's not fair to you. i wouldn't propose to her unless she changes her ways. she could be depressed too. so you might want her to get that checked out. plus it also sounds if she ain't good enough for you either you have talked about her body then. like how it was and now it ain't like that. you go that your a good looking guy with high self esteem. not everyone is like that. you could be putting her down and not even know it and not matter what she might do in her mind it might not be good enough for you so she don't bother. but you need to be talking to her and get over yourself and it's not about you any more there is 2 other people in the picture then you. find out what the problem is. if you decide or thinking about cheating brake it off before you do so.

Answer 6

First off, you would need to talk to her adult-to-adult. Be the man that you are and don't coward down to her coach potato butt! Let her know what is bothering you and find a compromise.

The bigger picture is your son but your feelings are also important. If you love her purely for her, talk to her and let her know your feelings and suggest something reasonable. A child is an important decision to make and you made one. So bearing with the situation is a must and enduring the emotional pain is unnecessary.

Try whatever means necessary for you and her to work because of your son. Make sure that you will be happy with the idea as much as she will be. Come to an agreement on what to do and how to solve it. If she gets crazy and acts up, go get an attorney and make sure you will have a higher chance of winning than she will and throw a custody battle on her lazy butt. Your son will be better off with you. He does not need a mother who only lays around and can't even show love toward his father.

All in all, good luck and hope I helped some way.

Answer 7

I can answer this question from experince if that is her first child haveing a child takes alot out of a female.Also she could be suffering from postpardom depression or just depression which is very physical and mental.Try get her involved in some things to help boost her selfesteam and try your best to make sure she knows you love her and you think shes buetifull.Tell her you love the person you met with all your heart but this person she has become your not really happy with,have a very deep,honest talk with her and if she loves you and you both feel its worth holding onto it will work otherwise i think it would be time to move on.No matter what happens your heart is the only one that can answer that ? for you.

Answer 8

You need to tell her how you feel. How you loved everything when you first started out and what has changed. (Don't mention her body shape though if that's changed, she did have a kid--women don't wanna hear about that). If you are working all day, she needs to be contributing to the house chores especially if she is not working. It sounds like you really still care about her, and hopefully she will hear what you are saying and cares about you enough to start getting up off the couch and doing something around the house. If she won't change her habits, I would not go popping the question. Don't cheat either, break it off before finding someone else if that's the point it gets to.

Answer 9

As much as i hate to say this...i am like your girlfriend. My fiance works all day, and i can't find the motivation to clean or cook anymore. i do cook everyday but it's never anything special or fancy, just something quick. I know it is my fault, and i need to clean but i feel it's for nothing. he comes home and messes things back up and doesn't clean up any of his mess, and when i did clean, etc.. .he never really made it seem he was proud or appreciated it. I know if i did do it, and he was thankful and helped when he made a mess he'd pick it up and not expect me to, i would clean a lot more and enjoy it. I'm not blaming it on him at all because i know it's my fault, but i'm saying maybe you should let her know you want her to, and when she does, tell her you love it, and she did a good job, give her motivation. Don't leave her tho. Tell her what's wrong, and talk about it first. You have a kid, and that gives you more reason to stay. Also, she might be doing things that you don't realize or give her credit for, so maybe you should think about that. Now as for the sex part. Girls usually don't want it as bad as guys do. We used to have sex a lot more than we do now, but it's just because it gets boring. It's always, "okay, we're done eating. Let's go have sex" it's never anything new, and never any build up (we used to go out to eat, or do things) when he does romantic things for me, it makes me want it a lot more. Also, maybe if we spiced things up a little in the bedroom with something a little different, i'd want to more. Well, sorry i wasn't much help.

also remember, being at home all day is very boring and can make people depressed from boredom to where they don't want to do anything. It seems hard to understand for someone who is out busy at work all day, but try staying at home with not much to do and see how hard it really is...

Answer 10

i'd wait till you're Married. you have become married so quickly why rush into sex? in my opinion i imagine that you 2 might want to attend till you're older to get married. finally end up college and faculty get you existence on course . You 2 must have your own lives the position you opt for them earlier you tie the knot

Answer 11

If you are doing everything around the house as well as working and raising your son, you have to talk to her and explain to her that your relationship should be give and take. All the work should not be put on one person. I have to disagree with you about a few things. It is not solely a woman's job to do the housework and raise the kids. Also, she doesn't have to sleep with you whenever you want.