I think I do - I have been single for three years now - I have had some short relationships - but I dont know - It seems like it is harder to meet people now - I just dont want to bother - the slightest thing and I dont bother with a girl - just protecting myself I guess. I feel like crap enough so I am dammed if I will let one reject me at all - Thought I would get some feedback here !
2007-03-02 12:13:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
WOW... YOU HIT A NERVE!!! i am marrried to my prince charming, have a huge house and 2 wonderful children , my husband makes alot of $ and i work because i like to, but... boy have i been drinking... and depressed...
i have an appointment with the doctor monday... its been 3 years in this miserable situation!!??? how can someone be miserable with everything right in their lap???!!! i need help... maybe you do to...
MY ADVICE IS TO GO TO THE DOCTOR, THEYLL PRESCRIBE SOME ZOLOFT OF ANTHER ANTI DEPRESSANT... KEEP IN MIND IT TAKES ABOUT 10 DAYS BEFORE YOU FEEL A DIFFERENCE, .IVE DONE THIS BEFORE AND IT WORKS...(HAD TO GO ON IT FOR POST PARTUM AFTER THE BIRTH OF MY NOW 3 YEAR OLD)... NOT SURE WHAT I DID WRONG SINCE... good luck!
2007-03-02 12:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by kim t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi! I've been dealing with clinical depression for 8-9 years and i've just now gotten into a good relationship with a nice man.
It took me a long time to find someone, so I do understand where your coming from....All I can tell you is that it takes time, but its worth the wait. Give yourself time its worth it! I went through the time where i felt worthless to everyone and believe me it will pass. Best of LUCK!
2007-03-02 20:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a positive attitude will open doors. if you are stuck in a negative mode nobody will want to join you.look for things you enjoy stick with them and dont be afraid to ask a girl out, if she says no accept that it is her option and possibly her loss.just say nothing ventured nothing gained, you have a great day anyway. she may give you a second look.dont let it get you down there is someone out there waiting for your advance.
2007-03-02 20:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by jay p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you are ready for a relationship anyway because dating does involve rejection. (It's a numbers game and you have to have a healthy attitude about rejection.)
As for me, my fiance broke up with me due to my depression.
Now, I'm just working on me. Getting myself to a healthy place.
There is a relationship matrix:
DEPENDENCE (get material support from others)
INDEPENDENCE (able to stand on your own)
INTER-DEPENDENCE (time for a relationship)
I'm still at the dependence stage!
Until you stabilize, I recommend you focus on yourself.
2007-03-03 17:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by lexi m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely have difficulties with relationships......this is more linked to myself being bipolar though. I have learned how to adjust better because of medications, but I am sure it will never be easy. However, it isn't easy for anyone. Learn to love yourself....get professional help......and then you will be able to find someone that you love because they love you because your exactly the way you are.
2007-03-02 20:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been depressed in the past and my husband didn't understand. He couldn't relate to what I was feeling and wanted me to just snap out of it. This created a distance between us for a while.
2007-03-02 20:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to have a relationship if you have depression. Get medical help for the depression, your health comes first. Relationships second.
2007-03-02 20:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depression is different for everyone and can be worse for many.lots of people think that you will just get over it.but you wont.depression is a wide spectrum disease that can effect lots of areas of your life.relationships can be very hard for depressed people because they feel so down about stuff.your not alone on this one. i have depression and my marriage suffers because of it. its sux *** but you should probably see a doctor though.
2007-03-02 20:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by emmabugg 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can let go the past and focus on te future, you will find someone wonderful for you an dyou will have the strong desire for that person--That feeling is great!
2007-03-02 20:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by lily 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not on my part but my boyfriend has suffered for a long time and we still have a lot of problems with it. You should talk to your Dr. about it. Every one deserves to be happy!
2007-03-02 20:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sippy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋