is there any way I can get warmed up
2007-03-02 12:09:31 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lots of kissing and huggin and petting and then slobber all over his equipment so it will be nice and lubed. - he should slobber all over yours as well then blamo - it will be great!
2007-03-02 12:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rickey W 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't want to sound like a parent so I am not going to say don't do it... But you may want to consider a few things:
How long have you been with your bf? Are you both virgins? If not do you know that he has been tested for all STD's? Do you know for a fact he has (people lie about these things).
Are you prepared for any possible consequences like contracting an std or getting pregnant? Herpes and genital warts can be contracted even if a condom is used... And you are probably wise enough to know that a condom is not enough protection to prevent pregnancy right? Also, think about how you will feel if post sex (maybe tomorrow or the day after) he decides he is no longer interested. Some guys suddenly are very busy after they have landed that girl in bed. Trust me I know about that one (my 1st time that happened even though my bf and I had been together 5 months and he vowed he loved me blah blah blah). Anyway, I don't want to sound like a preaching parent, but just wish that I myself had been asked about, or thought about some of these things before I had sex for the 1st time.
If you are going to go ahead though, I would suggest some lubricant like "wet", or the warming ky liquid that can be bought at any drugstore. The wetter you are the better and lubricants are better than your own wetness because they will allow for more slide which will make it hurt much less (it will probably still hurt like big time though) - BUT make sure they can be used with your condoms - some will break down the material the condom is made of. Another thing is to try to relax, take some deep breaths in and out, don't strain or flex your muscles in that region. Have some music playing to get you in the mood.... That is about all I can say. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision for yourself.
2007-03-02 12:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by melissa j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get warmed up you should just start by kissing then move to things like fondling and continue with this. He could start to finger you or go down on you. If you have given oral before you could have a bit of a 69 to help you relax more. Then just slowly proced to sex. The thing i say is make sure you wear a condom even if it's your boyfriends first time too. There are still many std which you can catch as well as getting pregnant. Any way have fun to tonight and enjoy it.
2007-03-02 12:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by gundychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex isn't something that you "plan". It should come naturally and comfortably with the person that you love. But, if you are expecting this to happen, then you should probably spend alot of time doing foreplay; that will make the process a little been longer rather than just jumping in to it, because that is no fun. Try kissing first, just take it slow. If you find that you aren't ready and you start freaking out, make sure you tell your boyfriend so he can stop before it gets bad. Also, it's a good idea to use some sort of protection. I really wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-02 12:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by _hopefull_ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will be warmed up during the business hours. Make sure you know who is the fathers of your babies are, so that you don't have to go on to the Maury's show for the paternity tests.
2007-03-02 12:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel scared to do so.. that means your not ready.. i know how u feel i was you before. im same age as you.. your boyfriend should respect u when ur ready to do so,hes probably only wanting that from you,u never know until after an end of an realtionship. you should do it when u feel totally ready more likely after marriage trust me,for emotionally and many other reasons. waiting is the best soultion.Good luck..i hope u choose what u feel is best!
2007-03-02 12:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
aww ur first time well try not to be so scared because then u will be to scared to do it make sure you use protection but when he gets their and u still fell nervous do a little bit of four play before yall do it so you can get into the mood but sweety if your too nervous mabey your not ready and you should wait
2007-03-02 12:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by BLI-BLI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's ready and you're ready, things will come naturally and you won't be scared. Good luck and use protection if you decide to proceed with the deed.
2007-03-02 12:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by alleyshax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pharoah is a hater.. thats prolly he is at home saying hi to PALM-ELA ...
anyways, u have a guys' avatar or whatever so im hoping ur not a guy cuz no advice there .. but either way, since you already got ur mind made up, i guess cant talk you out.. but just be safe though.. haha dont expect too either.. first times have been known to get uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh________________________????? just like that
2007-03-02 12:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by pdtpatrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....are you doing it because YOU really want to? Or because he wants to? Make sure you really are ready for this! And if you decide you ARE ready, then GOOD LUCK! There is nothing you can do to warm up but relax! Have fun sweety!
2007-03-02 12:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Minu 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you think you get warmed up by talking to people on YA then you're not ready.
2007-03-02 12:13:25 · answer #11 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋