Me and my stepsister and my step mom got in a small fight about something stupid. It ended up spiraling into a huge fight when my dad got involved and stuck up for me. I did appreciate that though. I usually go up to my dads house everyweekend because of the fight i didnt go up last weekend. Since Well there were alot of things that were said that were not good that night. My step mom called me and we talked about it and then i talked to my step sister( not really about the situation) but about other stuff. I have to go up to my dads house this weekend and my dad and my step mom are still not happy with one another. is a huge mistake that im going up there? and even though everything seemed fine with them when i talked to them...im worried that when i go up things will not be okay between us...any advice?
2007-03-02 11:57:32 · 10 answers · asked by And kayla was like 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. Go. If youre worried ask if you can talk to both of them and just tell them that them getting along is important to you and that you dont want anything to happen to ruin that. Let them both know you love them both and u love your sis. I think youll feel better. Dont bring up the argument and if anyone tries to, just say hey its not as important as u all are to me so can we drop the past and just hug.
2007-03-02 12:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in a step family relationship and know how difficult these things can be. But it will be best to go back there and confront the situation sooner rather than later, things tend to get worse if you leave them. Just go and try to have a normal weekend, dont bring up the fight unless they ask first. It will settle down with time, but don't stay away or it will get harder and harder to go back.
2007-03-02 12:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ahwell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only worry about your relationships with your stepmother and your stepsister. If you feel that you have resolved things with them then let it drop as you said it was a silly arguement anyway.
Your Dad and stepmum are old enough to sort out their own relationship differences by the time you get there they will probably have forgotton all about it. If you feel that things are still strained when you get there, speak to them both together and tell them that you feel uncomfortable about the fact that your silly arguement came between them. They will at least then know that you care about them both and are concerned about their relationship. Good luck it will probably blow over.
2007-03-03 08:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by cathyjast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if your stepmom and dad need some space to sort themselves out(not from you). go to their house as planned. if no-one wants to talk about it ,you cant force the issue. you could say though that you are very sorry for your part in the argument,and just want to be friends again. families fight all the time, its part and parcel of life honey.dont take it personally i think you just got caught in the cross-fire. if your step-mom phoned you thats because she knows you're not to blame. be brave dont stay away from them .they love you remember xxxx
2007-03-02 17:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by kazzy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame that you are caught between your parents issues.For starters their are no sides.Hard to answer your question not knowing the issues .But sounds to me your the one with the level head. words are just that, only words.Time is the greatest healer of all things .So no matter how hurtful the words are they will get over it .Go for your visit.because one thing is for certain you cant get that time back.
Bye from Canada
2007-03-02 16:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by whitewinged1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever is the argument and you are not involved, then there is nothing to worry about. in fact if you are on the neutral side maybe you can help ease up the situation. your father i am sure loves to see you even just for the weekend.
2007-03-02 12:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rolly r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever is going on now is between them, you have all had your say and as far as you are concerned the argument is dealt with, if they are continuing to be frosty with each other it's between them, nothing to do with you anymore. Just try to enjoy your weekend and don't involve yourself in their continued argument. If they are holding grudges let them! it's their argument now, don't say anything because it will all just kick off again.
2007-03-02 12:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the best thing to do is just face it.
maybe you can all talk about it. if not at least try to talk to your step mom. you'll have to go back eventually, so might as well get it over with. at least you have been on speaking terms with them.
hope it works out ok for you hun
2007-03-02 12:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by tinkbostwick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should go because this whole fight was not "someone's" fault. The sooner you go up there the sooner your family heals.
2007-03-02 12:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it cos it will tur on you if you do and let me tell yee it will be bad
2007-03-02 12:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋