I am really fearful I won't fit in. It might bring in conflicts, and complications and too much adjustment and sacrifices. I'd be too modern a girl for them. They are ultra conservative. Plus they are religious, and I am not. They speak a different language I can't understand. Should I let him go, or continue with him. Could he still be the right guy for me? Advise please...
2007-03-02 11:42:50 · 14 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Adapt...someone will have to. If not willing then forget it.
2007-03-02 11:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jalapinomex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate of course you should stay with him. Cause then the family will most probably think that your not good 4 him anyways cause you left b4 anything happened. Cause at the end of the day the family is looking for someone who will stick with him all the way no matter what the obstacles and even if it included them themselves. So stay and if he's worth it to you you will stay and I know you will.
Work with them yknw get to know the family you dont have to be religious 2 fit in just say I have my own beliefs which you do and thats that.
You will only know if hes right, if you give him a shot cause at the end of the day its you and him in the relationship not you, him and his family kk :) Remember that and dont be afraid to stand your ground
Take care mate :)
2007-03-02 19:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough predicament! It's tempting to pull a Romeo & Juliet and defy the family involved for the sake of your love, but the truth is that after it's all over and you're back to living your every day life, you're going to have a tremendous amount of pressure on you and so will he. What if his family threatens to disown him? Could he stand up to that and what if they made good on their threat? What about when children come along? They may fight tooth and nail to have those children reared in their culture and faith or they may ignore them because they are half you. What does your boyfriend think? How much does his family mean to him? I'd like to be more encouraging, but it really seems like the odds are stacked against you.
2007-03-02 19:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-10 12:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by *hola* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pick your partner, not your family - or your partners family for that matter. There are lots of 'mixed' marraiges out there. What's really important is that you and your chosen have the same basic values. If he is super conservative and religious and you are modern and not religious and you aren't both willing to compromise and work with that, there's trouble ahead. If you both really love each other and are willing to do the work, and the compromising your relationship will require, then I'd consider sticking it out.
2007-03-02 19:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be strong enough to handle being in a relationship, that is different from your own culture. Make sure you don't lose yourself in this relationship.
2007-03-02 19:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your personnality. If you really want to stick to what you r and it conflicts with HIS culture/belief (not his familly, you shouldn't care about them), then move on, you can't change yourself for someone that much, it will just disappoint you.
2007-03-02 19:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ash L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dating him not his family you should not break up with him because of that.You are just assuming his family won't like you they probably will like you so just take one day at a time
2007-03-02 19:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family shouldn't matter.
If you love him and he loves you.. and you aren't 12 years old, you should be fine.
His family will learn to accept you in time.
2007-03-02 19:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by megahot megababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always give it a shot!!!! it all depends how comfortable u are too...but if u love him then stay with him...it depends how much U want to sacrifice...
2007-03-02 19:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
control the feelings and keep the family
2007-03-02 19:46:23 · answer #11 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋