as far as i know most young guys say they love u cause they want to get into ur pants and that they think sex is love but i dont undertstand how they think sex is love wen they believe a crush is love and they know when they have a crush right?please explain this to me
2007-03-02 11:40:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
alot of young guys say they i love u just to get into ur pants and that they think sex is love ,but they believe that a crush is love so my question is how can they think lust is a crush?cant they till that sex is lust and a crush is feelings.
2007-03-02 11:47:57 · update #1
alot of people dont know what love is untill they geta lot older but how can a guy have sex with a girl and think thats love and yet know when he has a crush?
2007-03-02 11:50:58 · update #2
i wish i could but your question made me more confused than i was...
2007-03-02 11:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hockeymom!!! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right that a lot of guys think that love is just a way to get sex. To a guy, with all those harmones running through them, they think that if they can get their hands on a pretty girl and do something they must be in love.
The problem is that most kids have been practically brainwashed into believing women are just "things". What boys need to realize is that all women are people and have personalities and feelings too. As soon as a guy can realize and recognize that there is a person behind a girls good looks, they'll figure out that real love comes when you actually care for someone.
2007-03-02 11:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys confuse lust, crush, and love. They may think they are in one stage, but really they are in another. They may also claim to feel more than they do, or just outright lie.
This is also true of women, and is part of the confusion of being a teenager / young adult. You have to really get to know yourself first, and sometimes you will only realize with time and experience the truth of your feelings.
For example, a guy in high school may think he's in love, but after five or ten years, when he's fallen in and out love many times, he'll realize what he felt then was only a crush.
Usually it's women who mistake sex for love - they often think having sex with someone proves you both love each other. But many guys can have sex and say "I love you" without really feeling love or meaning it. That's not to say they are all sex-hungry jerks, but it's hard to know for sure, so you need to be careful.
2007-03-02 11:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of boys today expect that when a girl says she loves you, that means she'll have sex with you. This, however, is the wrong idea. Sex wasn't made for you to have it wit every other boyfriend or girlfriend. So sometimes when a boy says he luvs you it does mean he just wants to get in your pants. I get what you mean when you say you don't understand, buy you dont' need to have sex until you're married for various reasons.
But there are good guys out there that when they say they love you, they mean it.
Overall, make good choices. God Loves You!
2007-03-02 11:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why we all grow up. Young love is different than adult love. When you are younger you think with pure emotion and instinct. As you mature you starting using your brain. Stop letting guys in your pants until you are sure his motives are real. If they know all they have to do is say "I love you" to get you naked they will say it with a straight face but not mean it. Dating is tricky no matter what your age is. It will get a little easier the older you become.
2007-03-02 11:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're saying that if sex is love then how can a boy have a crush on you (when he hasn't had sex with you yet) right? Well if i'm right about your question: 'crushes' are based on hormones... sooo when they have a 'crush' on you they are already looking at you sexually : also known as one of the many failures of the Western marriage system.
2007-03-02 11:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they know the difference just like you and I know the difference. young guys want to have sex and the best way to do that is to say you love the girl so that is what they do. Most men will say anything if it gets them sex.
2007-03-02 11:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hormonal. Guys feel good when they get laid so they think it's love. But then they realize that they just like getting laid. (This doesn't apply to all guys but most) Most guys won't know what love really is until they are in their 30's, if that.
2007-03-02 11:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dappa D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aaa..what exactly do you want explained...
most guys want to get into your pants, yes
but most guys still know what love is
and most guys won't say they love you to just get into ur pants
...or else they won't say it first
thye don't believe a crush is love...do you really think that guys are that retarded...i mean seriously what you're saying is one of the most offensive things i've ever heard...quit being a sexest
2007-03-02 11:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be way too young.... you should start having realtionships, but dont have sex until you are mature enough and are with a mature guy!
2007-03-02 11:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpio Girl 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, they just use that logic as way to get you submit to them when they all line up in line waiting for you.
2007-03-02 11:44:31 · answer #11 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋