Should I breakup with my boyfriend?

Question

I still really like him but I'm a year older than him and I feel like he is too immature for me. Plus we barely ever see each other and only occasionally at school. Btw I'm 14 in eigth grade and he's not even 13 yet in seventh grade. Next year I wil be at high school and he will still be in middle school. I feel like I should break up with him but I still really like him. And even if I do break up with him I have no clue to tell him. Btw we've been dating for a week and two days and everyone says we make a really really great couple. I can't see our relationship going any further. Please I need help no stupid answers like that I'm too young to date because I'm actualy one of the more mature, well behaved, and smartest student in my grade who will probably be valedictorian my senior year. Thanks for your help.

Yea I forgot to push down 3. We have been dating for three weeks and two days and have been on two dates.

Answer 1

I say break up. I won't say you're too young, but you are young enough to go out exploring. Find someone more mature. Trust me, you'll move on. If he is too immature, you shouldn't waste your time. Find someone who you know will be there, will make you happy, is about your age, and is mature. Going from middle school to highschool is a big difference. Once your highschool career starts, it will be all different. There will be new faces, more maturity, different attitudes, and new guys. I'm sure you'll be able to find someone there. If that doesn't work out, and your current boyfriend really loves you, he won't ever move on from you. Just take that chance of moving on. You have many years to come.

As to breaking up with him. Tell him how you really feel. He's only in 7th grade, trust me, it doesn't hurt as much then as it would when you're older. Don't let this relationship get too serious if you want out already. It'll hurt him more in the future if you let this keep going. Just tell him that you rather be single, and keep your options open.

Answer 2

Maturity or behaviour or intelligence has nothing to do with whether or not you should date. Just because you believe you're all of those things and should be in a relationship at 14 doesn't mean you should be.

Having said that, everything you've said points to the fact that you want to break up with him. You think you're more mature than him, you don't see each other often and next year you're going to be at different schools. Those are enough reasons.

But if you barely ever see each other, how are you actually dating? Dating involves things like going to the cinema or the mall or hanging out other places. Do you even do that?

Answer 3

You are soooo young and have somuch more coming to you in high school. if you don't see the relationship going anywhere then break up. because you are about to enter high shcool where you will be doing some major maturing ...and the guys don't...so the older guys in high school are the ones you should be holding out for, because in junior high it's hard to have a real mature relation ship and in high school it happens all the time....two very different places....i think you should end it..oh and doing it sooner rather than later is probably a good idea too...the longer you wait the harder it will be

Answer 4

I'm not gonna say that you're too young to date or anything stupid like that. But I think you're taking this too seriously considering you've been taking for just over a week. You two are still at that point in the relationship where you just started out and you can say "Listen, I just don't think this'll work out." Tell him why you think it won't work, let him say what he has to say and then if you still want to end, go for it. And you shouldn't care how other people see you as a couple. It's your life, don't anyone else live it for you.

Answer 5

I don't think you are too young to date, but I do think you are too young to be taking it as seriously as you are. At 14 it's merely practice on how to deal with dating and boyfriend situations for when you are an adult. I am glad that you are doing great at school. That is what needs to remain your main focus. When I was 14 I went through boyfriends like they were notebook paper. I wasn't sexually active, but I just saw as life experience. If you feel that you are he don't have the same maturity level then I say break up with him. You seem to have a clear ideal of what you want. That is a good attribute to have in someone as young as you. Hold on to that. You seem to be the kind of girl that will never settle.

Answer 6

ok first off i am in the same position as you are on this so im here with you. my boyfriend is 12 in the 7th grade and im 14 in the 8th grade. anyway he's mature and all but he's moving next year and we're still gunna stay together. if you really like your boyfriend i see no reason that you should break up with him. if you feel the way for your boy that i feel for mine then i think you should put the effort to keep it together relationships are hard but you have to be willing to put 110% into it. he will get more mature trust me you should already know that we mature faster than guys and they do catch up.

i really hope this helps and you figure out what to do =]

Answer 7

If you still really like him I would stick it out. Just hang out with him for a while and when you switch schools see how it is then.

A week isn't enough to judge whether or not it's going to work out.

You'll likely break before you get out of school anyway. I always had 2-3 month relationships at that age.

Answer 8

If you're asking the question "should I break up with him?" I think deep down you already know the answer to your question and you are basically seeking some support and reassurance. If you are only two weeks into the relationship and are already questioning it, them maybe you need to reconsider. You've already given some really good reason's as to why you should end it. Here's what to do , make a list of reason's to end it and another of reason's to keep seeing him, compare them and take it from there. Think of it a buying some really hot shoes. How do they fit? Are they tight? a Little to big? do they hurt your feet? How much do you love them , how much sacrifice are you willing to make? or are they just perfect. The decision is ultimately yours, so good luck.

Answer 9

We'll let me get this out of the way. YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO DATE!. And if you are so mature as you say then you would KNOW why you're too young to date. But that being said Since you are going to high school and you won't see him during the school day at all and since you will see all so many more young guys who are in high school I would say drop your present boyfriend and move on.

Answer 10

Yes, if you need to ask that question then that should be your signal. You are too young to have a serious boyfriend yet anyway. There are so many guys out there. Make friends with them and forget about the boyfriend/girlfriend thing. I always found it much more fun to be around a lot of people--guys too.