My brothers were there and his brother was there. And it got pretty heated between my brothers and my husband and his brothers. Anyway since then we all cooled off but for some reason his brother who lives whith us refuses to talk to me even though the fight had nothing to do with him. My husband told me to give it some time and hell cool off. I tried to be patient for a whole weelk but i could stand cooking cleaning and doing his laundry this whole and he never even says hi. My husband found out yesterday that i stoped doing his laundry and now my husband is mad at me. Im so upset because as if hes taking his side. He told me to be patient with him but when i take a stand for my dignity he gets mad. HELP!!!!
2007-03-02 11:40:51 · 14 answers · asked by Lana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like he is more married to his brother than you and that you are just everyones maid.
2007-03-02 11:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be doing his laundry and cooking and cleaning behind him. He is a grown *** man. If he hasn't the respect to be at least pleasant to you in YOUR OWN HOUSE,the screw it nd him. There is no need for that. You husband needs to talk to him and let him know what the deal is, he shouldn't let some1, family or not, treat his wife that way. I would be more mad at my husband than his brother in that case. I've been married for a long time and that would not fly w/me good luck
2007-03-02 19:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by VIRA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be on your side, not his brother's. The fact that he is not standing up for you makes me wonder if you are indeed just the unpaid maid in this family.
Tell your husband that either he gets his brother to respect you, or he (the brother) will have to move out of your home. Put your foot down and don't be suckered into giving in.
2007-03-02 19:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG ok, you don't have to do laundry for anyone but yourself! It is ridiculous that your own husband is expecting you to do HIS brother's laundry, he can do his own friggin laundry.. f*** that!!!
You just keep standing for yourself until you can't anymore, and when you can't take it anymore, that, I'm sorry to say, is when you leave! What is wrong with your husband! wow.. if my husband treated me like that, it is guaranteed he would never have clean laundry again unless he did it himself!
2007-03-02 19:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. dun make it a war..... tell your husband that you want to be appreciated and shown some respect.... and tell his brother that to,...... if yer doing the laundry they sure as hell better give you some respect........ but on another point if its really that annoying to you why dont you take of for a weekend with freinds to a spa or some other fun trip and let the boys fend for emselves.....and the bro cool off
2007-03-02 19:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by may 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His brother should get over it. It's your (and your husbands) house FIRST, and if he can't be at LEAST civil towards you, he can pack it up & hit the road.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, and you should kick your husband in the shins, he'll remember how bad that hurts next time he's thinking about doing something stupid. *wink* *lol*
2007-03-02 19:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by paj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother in law should be at least treating you with respect or he can just get someone else to do his laundry. F. him!
2007-03-02 19:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some problems in our life teach us how to be patient. To learn anything in a school, you must pay for it, and they don't teach this at school at all. So I think you are lucky to learn it at home at no costs. I am not saying you are the bad guy :)) nobody is the bad guy, and nobody is the good guy. Simply cool off, and be patient. Correct me if I'm wrong. Thanks.
2007-03-02 19:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend...it's not now...nor has it EVER been your job to do your brother in law's laundry! He needs to stop pouting, get off his butt and take care of himself! You're not his mother, girlfriend, wife or maid!
You keep standing up for yourself. I'm sure your husband will get mad...but you're not his child. You're his wife and he needs to respect you like you respect him!
2007-03-02 19:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
time for you guys to give him his walking papers if you husband won't stand with you on this then you should leave. sounds like your husband and his brother expect you to be the maid.
2007-03-02 19:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋