Hi, I was just wondering if there's any etiquette to letting the bride-to-be know the price that was paid for the ring. Does the groom-to-be just let her know right shortly after giving it to her? I have documentation (e.g. certification docs, etc.) which came with the ring. Do I just let her know, which seems a bit tacky, but maybe I'm just being overly sensitive. Thanks.
2007-03-02 11:37:54 · 30 answers · asked by MKai 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wow, thanks for the all quick answers! I'm not ashamed at all of the price or anything. I wasn't going to blurt it out either. I was wondering for two reasons:
1) What if she asks
2) There is an appraisal of the ring along with GCAL and AGSL certifications, which would be useful for insurance purposes. The ring and everything that came with it belongs to her, but the documents have pricing on it.
Based on the suggestions, I'll keep the docs in a safe place and will only give them to her if she asks. I can always insure it myself.
Thanks again!
2007-03-02 12:07:01 · update #1
Keep the receipt and after the wedding, talk to her about maybe getting it insured if its valuable. Then just tell her you kept the receipt and she can have it if she wants it. I would definately wait till after the wedding though. If its really valuable maybe you should get it insured yourself b4 the wedding just in case it gets lost.
2007-03-02 11:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in a jewellery store, and usually the price of a wedding band never comes up. Most couples don't want to crazy prices. We sell wedding bands from $50 to $1,000 and do custom work for whatever price you want. It is not the price, but the thought behind the ring. Picking out the right ring is more important. Remember, she has to wear it as long as she is married to you. We had couples come back to get new rings, and they never pick an expensive ring the second time around, but something they can wear everyday and to let everyone know they are married. Don't worry about the price, and if she does, she is just shallow. Good luck.
PS. If you saw the movie with Brad Pitt (i think) you would never buy a diamond again. Make sure the diamond you buy is not an African diamond.
2007-03-02 20:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She eventually will find out how much you paid for the ring, but I personally have no problem. I actaull picked out my engagement set, saw the price, asked my now husband if that was ok and he said yes. He paid for it and I was right there.
You can give her the certificate and what not, that is not tacky at all and as a owmen, I can tell you that she probably wants to know but would never dream of asking how much you paid.
2007-03-02 19:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely shouldn't tell her -- you're right, it's very tacky! Likely she will find out what it's worth when you have it appraised to be insured, but that doesn't mean she'll know how much you paid for it. If you want to really keep it quiet, you can get it appraised without her present so that she doesn't have an idea how much you paid. But you definitely shouldn't make it a point to have her find out -- it's what it symbolizes that matters, not how much you paid for it.
2007-03-02 19:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the documentation in a fire-proof box either at home or at the bank where she can access it. If something should happen to you, God forbid, she should be able to access information about the value of the ring. At the very least, wait until after you've been married a while to let her know. Before the wedding would be tacky.
2007-03-02 19:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by sinfonian0294 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her know; it's your business. A mature woman will just appreciate the question, and getting the ring as a symbol. Keep the docs, and til you are married, the insurance can just be with her regular household insurance. If the ring is worth a lot, you can insure it separately after you are married.
2007-03-03 08:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOO OOOOOO OOOO I cannot believe you are asking this NO you should not tell her or "let her find out" the cost of the ring. If the stone is of good size and quality you won't have to say anything about what it cost, it will speak for itself, good or bad. If she really wants to know she will do what most girls do go to a jewler and have it appraised.
It is beyond tacky to do what you are thinking and I question your reasons for wanting to do so. Don't man, just don't.
2007-03-02 19:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be the thing to do to actually tell her but of she asks it is quite ok to say so. A lot of couples shop for the ring together and would know the price therefore, so there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It just wouldn't be 'tactful' to come right out and announce it if she didn't ask. Congratulations on your engagement!
2007-03-02 19:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for three years now and I still don't know the price of my ring. My husband has all of the paperwork that came with the ring stashed away somewhere. I don't see any reason why I need to know what he paid nor do I see a reason for you to tell her.
2007-03-02 19:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by sara123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to tell her at all? What purpose does this serve? My understanding is that you never tell someone what you spent on a gift (of any kind). That is why you take off the tags and give gift receipts that leave off the price. Engagement rings is no different.
Can you give more info on why you want to tell her?
2007-03-02 19:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rissipop 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋