2007-03-02 11:26:13 · 16 answers · asked by lex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm dating a woman right now who has a daughter. Its the first time I've done this, but maybe I can offer some insight.
Firstly, it depends on the guy. I wasnt sure it was somethign I wanted to do, and all my friends said to run for the hills. There's definately a stigma attatched to a woman with a kid(s). But in the end, I decided to give her a chance because she's a great girl and we have fun together. Its worked out well so far. It's not for everyone though.
Secondly, what is the woman involved expecting out of the guy? Is she trying to move him in to be instant new daddy for the kid(s)? Because if thats all she wants, THAT is a turn off. I got lucky in that aspect, because she hasnt pushed her daughter on me. I've met her, we've included her in some of our outings (tobogganing, min golf, etc) and thats cool- but she hasnt expected me to step in and be the father.
So ya, it's definately an issue for most guys, but it doesnt necessarily have to be a deal breaker, as long as he knows what hes getting into early and isnt expected to step into the father role right away. Unless of course, thats what he wants :P
2007-03-02 11:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Shane of the dead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a turn off at all to me, last few people I have dated have had kids. About the only negative thing I can say about is that it does complicate some things. I am one of those people that doesn't think it is right to be around someones kids all of the time unless you know your going to be there for the long haul. So it limits what you can go out and do and when you can do things. Not everyone is able to deal with that, and realize that no matter if your dating or not her kids need to come first. Which is completely the way it should be, no new person in someones life should come before their kids. And a woman that would put a new love interest above them just wouldn't be right for me.
2007-03-02 19:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by tattooed_and_pierced_countryboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men see a woman with kids as being much more likely to be looking for an immediate serious commitment- and whether you're a man or a woman, a partner with kids already is a very big commitment.
Allot of guys I know prey on these types of women- pretentending to be interested because they feel the woman is more "desperate" and willing to sleep with them much quicker.
So if you are a single woman withkids, take great care in dating- but don't show it -as it may be interpreted the wrong way
2007-03-02 19:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by pavano_carl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of... If you buy a cow that has a young baby, you have to also take the young baby. If you don't want the young baby, then do not buy the cow.
So, yeah, it can be an inconvenience if she has a kid, let a lone kids. Why? Because the guy probably doesn't want to share his woman...
While it is true that kids are annoying, being around children who are not yours kind of feel uncomfortable... However, if you become addicted to the kid that is not yours and her real father should want to take away the child for a day or two, this could lead to some form of inconveniences... I don't normally date girls who have kids, but I wouldn't refuse to.
2007-03-02 19:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children are Gods way of showing a womans inner beauty so for me I think when a woman has children it allows you to see more of what type of a beautiful person she really is so NO its defininately not a turnoff it just gives someone entering her world a whole lot more to LOVE!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 19:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by wildman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the kids are bad, or out of control, or if the ex is a psycho, or around to much then yes, sex only and leave is what a good amount of guys will go for. sorry, I'm answering based on what I've seen. i haven't done the above
2007-03-02 19:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Yutow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the man. Example...if he is young and into partying, then probably yes. If the man is mature and open-minded and likes kids, then for some it is not a turn-off. It really depends on the man. For me to answer your question humorously, Oh you know she puts out!
2007-03-02 19:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Reese G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I really don't think it is a turn-off. Guys always get attracted to girls who are confident, intelligent and pretty. Good personality , good body language and pleasant dispositions make them fall for those women. Guys do admire women with these qualities.
2007-03-02 19:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by deamer boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never dated a gal with kids, but if she is all that, and really has her sh*t together, so what. The only thing is tht if the kids' father is a jackass or if she is not over him....then I say later!
2007-03-02 19:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, ma'am? To some, it is. But I don't let that stop me. If she's got Kids? She's much more liable to be honest. Sure,she may be wanting to find someone? But she has to be honest. And you won't find many honest, Non-Mothers.
2007-03-02 19:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋