just wondering. I'm 16 and not to big on the loving myself right now, and i've noticed, while i get attracted to some guys, i have no intention of dating them, because i feel like i'd be an embarassment to them, just by being me =\
2007-03-02 11:24:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to respect yourself before anyone else is going to respect you. If you give off the image of I'm not good enough for you, they can easily interpret that. Do things to make you feel good about yourself, like getting your hair done, makeup done by a professional in the mall (they will sometimes do them for free) and shop for outfits that make you feel good. You will not be am embarassment to a guy, but you first need to get a positive attitude and doing things that are good for yourself.
2007-03-02 11:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by rebekah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If anything, the world suffers from an inordinate love of ' self '. You have to stop thinking of yourself like that. When you're that age, you're developing, your body chemistry isn't the same as it was or will be. You get self conscious without justification and people just love to dump on people in your situation. Too, what the world teaches about love and life in general is usually erroneous. Go to the book yourself. Not a preacher or church. Find out on your own. If you're on the level with me it probably took a lot for you to even put this up. I really hope this helps. Peace.
2007-03-02 19:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving yourself and caring for yourself go hand in hand in a relationship. I am sorry you feel that way and you won't feel that way forever. You may be just going through hormonal changes right now. But I applaud you for recognizing your issue in regards to dating guys. Maybe you need to just take time to focus on yourself. Find a hobbie, sport or something that you can be good at and let that help you bolster your confidence. There are great teen mags and books that could help. Good luck.
2007-03-02 19:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DATE UNTIL YOU FIX THIS. I say that because there are guys out there that can just sniff out the low self esteem and work that to their advantage and the girl winds up unhappy, controlled, beaten or worse.
If you cannot find reason to love your self ask a friend to give you some reasons. I think you would benifit from some counciling and do it before you start any kind of dating becasue unitl you can love your self you just might fall for the first jerk that makes you think he likes you.
2007-03-02 19:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes totally! I have been in a few relationships where I wasnt too happy with myself and I brought that into the relationship. You dont really think it will be a problem but eventually it will come out. You are giving the other person yourself basically when you are in a relationship so you have to think about what your giving them.
2007-03-02 19:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bedhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very true, that's why it is better for girls or even boys to wait a little until u know urself and u have developed the self-esteem that u should have, when thats all and done, u can be a better partner in a relationship, u will be more understanding, and insecurities will not be in the way of a good loving relationship
2007-03-02 19:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most definitley. It speaks to self esteem. And to truly love and care about another you must have a healthy self esteem. That is what is meant aobut loving yourself. You sound to me like you are depressed. The thought of someone else being embarrased by you... please get some therapy. You can start with you guidance counselor at shcool. He/she can point you in the right direction.
2007-03-02 19:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to love someone more than you love yourself. Just look at Jack and Rose, he let her float on the broken door (or whatever that thing was) because he wanted her to live more than he wanted to live. But you can't love spread the love unless you have enough love to spread.
2007-03-02 19:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awhh hun you can always fall in love with a guy its not something you choose to do it just happens. i know how you feel about the not loving yourself but if you do happen to fall for a guy who returns the feeling you will start to realize that you love yourself because he makes you feel important and thats how you'll end up feeling
just be yourself i know thats hard but if he dose not like you for you find someone else who will and then you'll have him to love you and you'll love yourself =] 2 for 1
hope this helps
2007-03-02 19:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Miss LisSandra =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..yeah.
If you don't really love yourself...well, yes, you probably won't be able to love someone else, who you think is important for you...cuz, if now, you don't love yourself, what more for other people?
But, I don't think you don't love yourself...I think you're...self-conscious? It seems that you don't want to be with the guy since you're scared that you might do something embarrassing when with him...Maybe that's it.
-peace :D
2007-03-02 19:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by .:evo:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋