I have a close friend who is trying to get discharged form the Military. She has been trying to find websites to give her info on what can be considered an honerable discharge. I told her she would do this when she signed up...she didn't listen. She has young kids and says it just isn't for her. I have tried to talk with her on this. Any advise or websites she can view?
2007-03-02 11:09:59 · 19 answers · asked by nicsgirlus 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Just QUIT!
2007-03-02 11:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mighty C 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't know of any websites that offer any advice other than illegal actions.....like going AWOL or falsifying statements or documents. But if your friend pursues a discharge she should come up with something more that she has kids and military life isn't her cup of tea. Those aren't valid reasons and you can imagine how many other people feel the same way.
And if she wants an honorable discharge then she has to earn it. And bailing out on she commitment will not get her one.
2007-03-02 11:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by iraq51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was honorably discharged from the military, when I was in Alaska because I had emotional problems after my wife left me and took my son back to New Jersey. If she is suffering any sort of mental anguish, due to her family and problems at home, and cannot function correctly she should see a military psychologist. I went this route and it took a while, but 6 months and I was out. I truly enjoyed the military, but family was more important. She needs to see a professional, and explain how she feels, and what the problems are. If they feel she cannot make it in the military they will let her go. If she is just doing this because she doesn't like it any more, and they see through it, then she's stuck.
2007-03-02 11:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi i am Kellie i was a military wife for four years before are divorce. I went through the same thing with my ex. He wanted out! He was in the army and an infantryman. We asked around and found out the only ways out are a disability, medical mostly! Otherwise once you sign that dotted line you are government property! Theres always awol but that is dumb! Tell her to go to her commander or squad leader and be straight up ask for any loop holes! Or maybe an office position instead? My husband needed surgery so they medically discharged him! He was suppose to go to iraq but his hip was deformed! Im sorry but you dont have much of an option! Talk to your priest to they might help!
2007-03-02 11:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's really that bad, as in she can't function, or she's going to do something stupid to hurt herself or her kids, then tell she can:
1) see the Chaplain for advice (but what she says to him is NOT confidential),
2) self-refer herself to a mental health specialist (do not let the command refer you!) and take the medical route out,
3) see Legal Assistance on post for advice on honorable discharge options.
Yes, getting pregnant is one way to get out, but I don't recommend it, because it sounds like she has enough problems with kids already, and would soon be out of a job AND pregnant.
Obviously, committing a UCMJ offense is not a good idea. Neither is going AWOL. She'd be jeopardizing her characterization of service on her DD214.
2007-03-02 11:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by around_the_world_jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking for a way to shirk her duty is absolutely dishonorable and she shouldn't EVER be allowed to say anything different. I am a veteran of the Army and women like your friend just make me sick. Her type make it hard on all other female soldiers that want to do their jobs and serve their country.
2007-03-02 11:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to be such a traitor. I can't stand it when these people sign up for military service just for the benefits they will get, without ever intending to fulfil their agreements. Your friend needs to develop a little character trait called commitment.
2007-03-02 11:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bill459 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She should have thought about this prior to enlisting. Tell here to suck it up and do her time in the mil. She will be in for a bad time if she does what the other two people answered.
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2016-09-30 03:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and finish her enlistment. Quitting is not an option when you join the military.
2007-03-02 11:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
she seems pretty stupid to me. she should have thought long and hard before she did this. it's her own fault, really. there's probably nothing she can do. I just hope she didn't sign up for that long of a time. she can always get pregnant. that might help. but it sucks for her.
2007-03-02 11:13:56 · answer #11 · answered by xeno 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋