okay i have been knowing him since i was 4 and i am nineteen now and we both have been liking each other since early elementary... but the thing is i am really shy and i have never had a boyfriend... he on the otherhand is very outgoing and has had millions of girlfriends... hes kind of a player... but he says he would be faithful to me and he has never tried to use game on me... i still like him and he still likes me... but i'm just reluncant to date him because i'm afraid that he will play me... also last year he had a baby... he takes care of his child but he is not with the mother... and i am in college now and he dropped out of high school our senior year...its a lot of things i take into consideration when deciding with this guy... i 'm tired of wondering what i should do... wut do you think? sorry this is so long
2007-03-02 11:06:58 · 28 answers · asked by co 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...you guys have those really genuine, rare relationships which are beautiful - there's nothing cuter than falling in love with someone you've known since you were babies...how important is this relationship to you? (meaning friendship). Just...don't rush things :) If it's gonna happen, it will happen on it's own :)
2007-03-02 11:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, don't do anything. The beauty of it is that guys should chase girls, not the other way round. Now, I don't know this guy and his life circumstances, but it does not sound good already if you know what I mean: at the age of 19 he managed to have a baby, then he drops out of school and he is a player. Was it an accident that he got a child or is he one of those, who are too selfish to use condoms? I am not a judgmental person, but I believe in "love smart". So even if he really makes an effort with you I would take it very very slow with him.
2007-03-02 19:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you would depend on what you were looking for in the relationship. If you've never had a boyfriend before, I would sincerely suggest you get yourself out there and get some experience under your belt. Now I understand that it may seem strange to get into a relationship that you know may not work out just to get some experience at dating, but trust me we grow and learn from the relationships we have during life, both good and bad and each helps us to be better prepared for our future relationships. If he does play you, you'll begin to learn the signs of that for the future which is very important. You may not have the luxury of knowing ahead of time how the guy is with his relationships. That being said, it seems to me you've made up your mind already. You list quite a few negatives about the situation between the two of you but only mention that you like each other as being a positive. If the above doesn't seem to be something you'd be interested in, I would suggest simply waiting until your heart and mind figure this situation out on their own. Definately don't waste too much time obsessing over it. It only stresses you out and puts you into a position to act hastely. Just go with the flow and allow things to happen naturaly.
2007-03-02 19:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Misty P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r old enough to be able to make good decisions. I mean u r in college. I am too so I can tell u that even though we r young we need to be able to make good choices. Let's think about the situation. 1)There is a guy who u know is a player and who admits to being a player (when he says "I would never play you" that's admitting it) who is "interested" in being with u. Firstly, don't think that any player who knows that the girl recognizes his lifestyle is going to try to convince her that she is "special?" That's one of the rules of the game. Don't fall for that one. 2) He dropped out of h.s while u are now in college. What would make u want to hang with someone so far away from having the same ideals as u? Waste of time. 3 & 4) He has a kid and is no longer with the mother of the child. From the beginning u should be able to see how much bagage that is. Along with that, he is NO LONGER WITH THE MOTHER OF HIS CHILD. I'm sure he fed her all of the crap that he is telling you yet, having a kid couldn't even get him to stay with her. Why would he stay with u? Don't get caught up in all the b.s that he is telling you. He is just looking for someone new to be with. U r in college so u have to be smart enough to figure that out.
2007-03-02 19:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give him a chance but at the same time remember he's young, has a baby and dropped out of HS his senior year. What is he doing work wise??? Does he have a career? How long has he held the job??? What are his goals for the future? These are things you have to think about. He may be worth it, just make sure he can stand on his own two feet. You should never settle for anything less...as a lot of women do.
2007-03-02 19:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by babeebluez73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you guys had somehting, it would have surfaced by now. However, if you are really into this guy, then give it a chance. You do have to realize that he now has past 'baggage' that will be brought into the relationship, including an ex that is the mother of his child.
Opposites do attract(my husband is shy and I am outgoing..it works!).
Also consider that you are in a higher institution of learning and he dropped out of HS. If this what you want, then go for it Good luck....
2007-03-02 19:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Teel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like him but this guy is carrying serious issues. You can give him a chance, but knowing that he has a kid and you know he's "kind of a player" is pretty much erring to the side of caution. You have a lifetime to find someone better. I say stick to your studies and get out there and party when you have the time. Remember, you are your own person. Who you're with doesn't define you. On a personal note, any guy who drops out of school is pure quitter or just an idiot.
2007-03-02 19:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by lickthisup69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him finish ur college, he might be a good guy and all but u have to think about urself first. get a degree, sustain a job of some kind. he has a baby the fist chance he gets into leaving the baby with u while he's looking for a job he'll take it.
stay away from him.
think about urself.
get ur life straight.
this is ur future we're talking about here, his future is already down the drain.
ur future is still in ur hands.
if u break up with him u won't even have a degree to help u in life.
don't make this huge mistake.
think practically with ur emotions.
DO NOT GIVE HIM A CHANCE!!
2007-03-02 19:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by invalidalpha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really just an oppinion...but my mother always taught me never to go into a relationship believing a guy can change...you have to be ready to accept him for the player he is right now...this doesn't mean he can't change...but just beacuse he says he will doesn't mean he will....i don't think that you should date him...i know guys like this and they're dangerous...plus if it doesn't work out there is always the risk of losing a really close childhood friend.
2007-03-02 19:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by sarah beth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is 100% sure in this life... only dead... so date him for a while is you want, and see what happen... nothing is also write in a stone... I have a best friend that is gay... and he was in a relationship for 10 year, and he boyfriend never cheat on him for that 10 year... that he know... last week, he came early to a travel bussiness, and he find his boyfriend get out to the neibor house in a very, very short, shorts... He never be in this house before....
2007-03-02 19:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by jorge c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not too long----we cannot make good decisions without enough info.This sounds to me like you really do like him and a part of you wants to throw caution to the wind and give him a chance while another side of you-----the logical side tells you this could very well cause you pain. I would hate to see him picking up this child from a former relationship then swinging by your place to pick up a child he had with you to take them to the zoo.------follow your heart and use the good reasoning you possess.
2007-03-02 19:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋