What amount of money would it take for you to ruin what was a pretty normal family. My older brothers and sister screwed me and my little sister out of about twenty thousand dollars apiece as part as the settlement of my parent's estate. I can survive without the money, but just the fact that they did it will probably prevent me from talking to them again. Should I continue to feel like this, or should I forgive and forget? Honestly, I can probably forgive, but I know I will never forget. What do you think?
2007-03-02 11:05:02 · 19 answers · asked by Commander 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is so distasteful of your family. I don't know what i would do in a case like that. It is morally wrong and to do it is evil. I guess i could forgive them in time but, i would never ever forget. I am so sorry for what they did to you and your sister. We rely on family to be there for us and when something like this happenes gosh it's just so wrong.
Remember that old saying what goes around, comes around!
2007-03-02 11:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is truly the root of all evil !!!
Have you spoke to your brothers and sister about this ? If not, you should.
Go to the court house and get a copy of the will. Was it taken to probate ??
You can fight this if you choose to. Speak to an attorney.
You know the entire situation surrounding this issue and you are entitled to receive your part.
If you are under age,could your part be in trust maybe ???
You need to try to talk to them and if that doesn't work, then you need to get you a lawyer & take it to court simply because you are entitled, and then you can forgive, and since you can't ever forget, when you do remember, real quick think about something else and soon it won't come to mind as often and will fade into the wild blue yonder.
Good luck to you & God bless you~~Jill
2007-03-02 12:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been told that family can probaly hurt you more than anybody else. And from experience that can be the truth. If the money was for all of you and you got none.....well thats really fowl no matter how you look at it. You should give them a call and let them know how you feel. Thats probably the only way you will be able to forgive
2007-03-02 11:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen people screw family over for much less. Heck, my trailer-trash cousin (nope, that's an insult to the trailer park she got kicked out of, correction, my loser cousin) forged my sweet, harmless, senile granmother's name on blank checks so she could buy "tacos".... tacos of hand-rolled smokable greens, if you catch my meaning.
Yup, it sucks, and there is no reason you should forgive them, other than your own peace of mind. You can hire a lawyer and try to get a more equitable settlement of the estate, but if you don't really need the money it's probably not worth the trouble. You don't have to "forgive" them (ie, talk to them, share their lives, etc), but you should try to forget about it (ie, move on with your life, don't dwell on the anger, etc).
2007-03-02 11:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If these people weren't related to you, how would you react. By an accident of birth, they are family. and in my opinion, not a very nice lot. Avoid them like the plague, and keep in mind, they didn't respect you or your sister, so don't take any chances. You can't prevent having these feelings, but it will take time to forgive. I would suggest that you not contact any of them, and if they contact you, be very, very busy. Relocating may be a consideration? Best wishes
2007-03-02 11:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by tylernmi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right u can forgive, but u will never forget, i would forgive and then move on 2 start fresh again, live life 2 the fullest that is my goal in life, which should be every ones goal.
2007-03-02 11:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by salcil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 7 brothers and sisters, I can completely relate! I hate to say this but you won't ever forget. Especially since it involved them going behind your back. You will probably talk to them again, but it will probably be when they need something from you! Good luck and be the bigger and better person!
2007-03-02 11:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by meme k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money has broken many families apart.
It depends on how close you are to these people
if you can forgive them
maybe you can talk to them and see why they did this
if they can't explain it try to forgive
but you may never forget
best to believe that what goes around comes around
someone may do this to them in the future
you could also consult a lawyer to see what your rights are.
good luck
2007-03-02 11:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I'd get some preliminary legal advice and if I had a chance I'd do everything in your power to take the settlement to the courts and win. You don't have any reason to forgive them, they aren't trustworthy.
2007-03-02 11:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋