ME and my boyfriend moved in together last aug. Before and after moving in I went to every family function of my boyfriends. His moms, dad, sisters, grampas, nefews birthdays, easter, christmas.......Must I go on. Last Jan when it was my birthday my boyfriend didn't get me a card, present, cake nothing untill two days after the fact. I got a card (maybe cause I said something ) and his parents just phoned me to say happy birthday (that was it)
Last wed. was my b/f birthday and I did everything for him treating him how I would want to be treated but on sat his mother is having a huge birthday party for him and I'm upset that I have put so much effort into going to every function and in return it wasn't given back when it was my birthday. From his family or my boyfriend!!! Should I go on sat? Should I keep going to every family function when the effort towards me isn't returned????? They tell me "your part of the family" but I feel they don't care about me.
2007-03-02 11:00:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It doesnt matter how they treat you. it matters how he does. He sounds selfish.
2007-03-02 11:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are delving too deep into it. Its my birthday this month and I'm really not bothered whether I get anything from my partner, card or anything. As long as it is recognised, i.e properly acknowledged with a good birthday drink or night out.
Perhaps your b/f is not aware how much you care about your birthday, I'm sure he is not a mind reader. If you treat him well on his birthday, like my other half does to me, it doesn't mean at all you expect the same in return. You need to make it clear. Are you jealous the attention he gets on his birthday, because you don't get the same response on birthdays from your own family?
With regards to the party and family functions, of course you should go to them. If they didn't want you around etc, they wouldn't invite you all the time. They obviously care a lot to have functions all the time to see the pair of you, my family don't do that sort of thing at all except for Christmas.
Simply have a word with your b/f, and explain you weren't very impressed with his efforts on your birthday. See if it improves next year or at Christmas. Come to think of it, if you are a January child, I believe you lose out on a large proportion of presents etc as it is so close to Christmas? Just a thought
2007-03-02 11:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by rikerlock 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your bf has no excuse for forgetting your b-day. You should slap him (lovingly of course). What a punk. But maybe his family didn't know. (since he obviously wouldn't have told them - and it's the first birthday you guys have spent together as a new family) - I'd give the family another chance. They should have at least suggested that you all go out to dinner for your birthday though - that was kind of lame. If all the family events for his side of the famiy are stressing you out, I would put less emphasis on them from now on -if you don't feel like going then don't, since they didn't emphasise your b-day.
2007-03-02 11:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my husband before we got married. It all depends on if you love him. He may not realize that you want him to make a big deal out of you. you should sit down and tell him how you feel. That is the only way he will know. Depending on his answer is how you should know to go sat or not
2007-03-02 11:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U already know the answer!!!.. How could your b/f 4get your b-day and him and his family do nuttin...Don't go and if they ask open ya mouth n tell him how much they hurt u...Would you wanna cont your live unhappy knowin this and even get married to a family who doesnt respect you??/
2007-03-02 11:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by confused69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This truly depends on if you want this relationship to last for a long time. You didn't metion age, but I assume you're 18 at least. I say yes, beacause it does sound like this is a long lasting relationship. GO WITH YOUR HEART!
2007-03-02 11:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by yahoo_user1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's time for you to move on to find someone who treats you with the respect you deserve.
2007-03-02 11:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by ra63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM! big time ! you're worth far more than the way you've been treated! my philosophy is "you only get walked over if you allow yourself to be"! get out now and let him know how it feels!
2007-03-02 11:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do, is leave the dumbass and find someone who actually respects you, loves you, and appreciates you.
And don't even try to argue that this guy is the one for you. He's not!
2007-03-02 11:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Bart Simpson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be petty. If you want to be part of his life, go to the function. Otherwise, move out (like you should anyway) until you get a ring.....
2007-03-02 11:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sparky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋