My husband and I have been keeping my pregnancy from his parents. I am 31 weeks so I'm almost done. I am starting to feel uncomfortable around them especially his mother. We feel that they have made to many hurtful comments about how we shouldn't have anymore kids due to the fact that we already have a two year old. Is it wrong to not want to hear the DRAMA ???
Do you guys think that we are justified if we just show up one day with our second child???
2007-03-02 10:59:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay I get what you huys are saying but this woman got physical with me during my last pregnacy so i try to stay away from her
2007-03-02 13:49:28 · update #1
You are married, your responsibilities on earth are first and foremost to each other and your children. It is your choice, and your parents should accept that and deal with it.
Oh, and one more thing...
Congratulations!!!!!!!!
(You should probably tell them, but be confident. If they wanted to control your lives, they should have spoken up at the wedding. They kept their peace then, and then should continue to do so now.)
2007-03-02 11:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by soulinverse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you're wrong, and no, you're not justified. Their immaturity doesn't excuse yours. You should have told them about the pregnancy, and politely informed them theat their comments about fertility and childrearing are hurtful, and explained to them that you don't wish to hear any such comments any more. if you don't want to hear the drama, you should simply lessen your communication and interaction with them.
You are facing much more drama now by hiding your pregnancy - did you really think it would just blow over when you waltz in with a second kid, or were you planning on hiding his existence forever?
2007-03-02 19:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is that going to go down? You show up with a baby and are like, oh yeah, just forgot to tell you I was pregnant??? Isn't that likely to cause some "drama"?
The real question is, why do you have contact with people that make hurtful comments and force you to hide the fact that you are pregnant? Seems like you are both being childish...
2007-03-02 19:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by cyranothe2nd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong. You are a married couple and nothing is wrong you having children. Tell them that you're having another baby and how happy you are about the new additionto your family. Either they'll be a part of your beautiful family or they won't. Let Mrs. busy body know that under no circumstance will you put up with her rude comments and that that's the reason why you were apprehensive about telling her. Let her know that she doesn't have to see her beautiful grandchildren and they'll be just fine. I'm sure there are other people in your family who will love, cherish and respect these beautiful babies.
Tell her to keep her negative comments to her damn self.
Good Luck and if you tell your MONSTER-IN-LAW about the pregnancy I sure would like to know the outcome.
CONGRATULATIONS AND GOOD LUCK AGAIN
2007-03-02 19:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by liverandonions2004 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how have you kept it a secret this long? don't they see your tummy? you're not wrong for not wanting to hear the drama but you're going to hear even more if you wait til the baby's born to let them know about it. it's no ones business if you have another baby. let them know you're expecting and if they start to say anything, hold your hand up and tell them to save it for oprah! opinions are like a**holes. everybodys got one.
congrats on the soon to be new baby.
edit - if she's been physical with you, i'd stay away from her alltogether.
2007-03-02 20:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell them before you have the baby. It is wrong to not hear the drama. Who cares what they think anyhow. You are your own person that makes adult decisions. Maybe you could try to talk to his mother about her comments.
2007-03-02 19:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the ones that will have to live with the choices that you make !! Just make sure that your motives are pure and that you are hurting no one. Consider the long term results.~~~~~Jill
2007-03-02 19:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all! deciding to expand your family is between the two of you! it is probably better to inform them anytime soon,they cannot exactly reverse the situation,sooner or later,they will have to accept their new grandchild! think of what is best for your child
2007-03-02 19:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by CHARLIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how do they not see it?
second its your business
third the drama will come
good luck
2007-03-02 19:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want the drama then, you're sure as hell gonna get it now..
2007-03-02 19:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋