My ex has only just got married, we've not been in touch 4 ages.
Now he's sendin me sexual txt messages and wanting to meet up with me. I've told him to stop but he wont , what do i do?
2007-03-02 10:25:27 · 37 answers · asked by curlywurlygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get as many of your freinds (that he doesn't know), to send him steamy messages, pref. in the eve. He'll have such a hard time pleading his inocenece he won't have time to hassle you !
2007-03-02 10:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That could be considered sexual harassment. Make a report with the police and also file for a restraining order. After that, if he sends you another text message he will be in violation of the restraining order and you can have him placed under arrest.
You definitely should keep the messages as evidence, do not delete ANY of them, the more evidence you have the better your chances will be in the legal system. You HAVE to make a police report also, that way, if anything happens or the situation escalates, there is a record and the police will see a pattern.. it will be easier to build a substantial case against him if the need arises.
Also, as a safety precaution for yourself, do not make any kind of return contact with him. The best thing to do is ignore him, this will only help your case, and keep him from becoming hostile and possibly hurting you. What he is doing does not sound like someone who is in the right state of mind, he could be dangerous.
2007-03-02 10:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, so many good answers, i say try them all.
1. Ignore them for as long as you possibly can stand.
2. When you have had enough you can either threaten him with the texts that you save and tell him that you will send them to his new wife if he doesnt stop or change your number. (You don't actually have to send them to his wife- dont stoop to his immaturity, just threaten)
3. If you dont want to change your number (and you shouldnt have to) then i would take it to the police and tell them that you have asked this guy to stop repeatedly and that he wont do it, and that you want to press charges for stalking, badgering, and you could also get him not only for harrassment, but sexual harrassment.
4. The police will charge him or issue him an official warning and then if you STILL get calls and texts from him they can charge him then, and will most likely issue a restraining order against him also.
2007-03-02 10:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by artchic1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you want to get even with him tell his wife if the relationship went sour.
But I bet hes texting you cause the marriage isn't going well, they say the hardest year is the first year you are married. I should know I just moved in with my boyfriend and for the first 5 months we argued for over everything from cleaning to money. Only now after 8 months its getting better.
2007-03-02 11:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis was getting harassed by his ex, her lawyer told her because there are ways for herself to stop this harassment like changing phone numbers the police won't do anything unless they really are nasty death threatening messages. If you have changed your number and this still happens then go to the police, cos that's stalking.
But my advice is go show the wife. Don't forward them as it won't show his number but take them straight to her. Even if you end up the bad guy then that's fine, you haven't lost out in anything! If she dumps him then again, you haven't lost anything! You win whatever the situation, if she keeps him and calls you a liar then it's not for you to deal with. So you win everytime!
2007-03-02 10:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Why not invite him and his wife to have dinner, and let the first line of your over the table conversation be from you, when you ask his wife to " Read these text messages your husband is sending me", then wait to listen to the response, it could be funny, but make sure you have some other people at your dinner party, I would bet you never see or hear from him ever again, OH! AND AT LEAST, CHANGE YOUR MOBILE FONE TO A NEW SUPPLIER, have fun, and don't let this romancer get you down. ........Tony M
2007-03-02 11:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here are a few things i would say or maybe do
tell his wife
say ur going to the police with these messages
or change ur moblie number i know u should nt have to but if you really want rid of him what *** to do that to his wife and put u through hell god u had a lucky exsape i had the same last year with a ex i tols him i had recorded the message s and said i go to the cops i was buffing but he does nt have to know that
2007-03-02 10:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you can try is changing your phone number. If you have not been in touch with him, I am surprise now he chooses to contact you especially since he just got married. If your ex make an effort to contact you, address a serious letter and mail it to his house. Let him know if he continues with the communication, you'll inform his wife! If by chance she reads that letter, then good!
God Bless
2007-03-02 10:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would arrange the meeting with him, preferably at a hotel room. Call his wife, let her know what's been going on and have her meet him there instead of you. I'd like to see him try and squirm out of that situation.
2007-03-02 10:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of his wife then agree to meet him but set it up so he is actually meeting you and his wife :) Serves him right for being a dog.
2007-03-02 10:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by John N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋