If a very young child behaves badly is it a good idea to spank the child or should you explain to the child what the consequences will be for misbehaving?
2007-03-02 10:24:19 · 25 answers · asked by Movielota 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I really think it depends on the child. Some children behave better after a time-out or after having a toy taken from them; but other, more stronger-willed children do not mind a time out and can become further enraged if a toy is taken from them (I've seen all these actions from my nieces, nephews, and my own children). Explaining the consequences would be a good idea if the child is old enough to grasp the meaning of both his actions and said consequences. A pat on the butt can sometimes get a child to listen better than any other method, but it should be reserved for the more serious bad-behaviour, otherwise spanking, too, can lose its impact on the child.
2007-03-02 10:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by belltrix86 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No spanking. It is far better to stop the child, and explain to the child the consequences of not behaving (just no long Lecture). Spanking is punishing a child for something they did that was wrong. Discipline means-teaching. A parent teaches best by talking WITH the child not AT the child. And, if you need to "do something" the consequesnce can be a time out-1 min. per yr. of age of child. 2 yr., 2 min. Although that is even kind of young for that. And also best by example. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-02 11:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It is never a good idea to spank. Spanking is a lazy form of parenting. Parents who spank are less educated. Read up on research, child development books and studies. Gather information that is current and correct. Don't rely on opinion alone. The reason is because alot of people on this site love to tell you that they were spanked and turned out fine. They use the saying "spare the rod, spoil the child" and use this as an excuse to hit. Make an informed decision about discipline.
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2007-03-02 11:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I suppose it depends on what they did. Sometimes spanking is necessary otherwise they wont learn there lesson and will just keep doing it. If you sit there and try to explain to them that what they are doing is wrong, then they probably wont even listen to you. But if you say somthing like do not cross the street without an adult or somthing, and then they do... i think time out would be good enough, but if they keep doing it then spanking would be necessary.
2007-03-02 11:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by kstrzwsk 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Spanking a child is a lazy method of discipline. It's a whole lot easier to spank a child than to sit down a talk with them. I think explaining the consequences and giving warnings will produce better results than spanking. Watch "Supernanny"!!
2007-03-02 10:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by pianoman_twentyoseven 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
It is never ok to spank a child..... We as adults are supposed to bring children up, not bring them down.
Any one who says that it didn't hurt them growing up and are spanking their children are continuing the cycle of abuse.
Look into meaningful ways of letting your child know what they have done wrong and explain what they have done wrong. You will see that if you spank a child for doing something wrong, chances are they will do it again. Then you are spanking them again and so on, so on.
2007-03-02 11:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by smc4u73 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i have only spanked my daughter twice, once for trying to run into the street, and the other for trying to touch the stove. otherwise she goes to timeout, then we have a talk about why she went there. since the two spankings, she doesn't run into the street, or try to touchthe stove. we reserve spanking for serious things, not every day use. a spanking hurts a lot less than getting burned or hit by a car!
2007-03-02 11:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You should give the child a warning and if he or she doesn't obey then you need and should punish them by spanking and whipping . Don't use that all the time and don't buy into to "time out" that does not get the message across. Start taking things that they like away and don't break just because they cry their eyes out!!!! Those are just crockodile tears. Don't believe them. and watch and learn bad habits and get them while they are young so that way you won't have to worry about to much when they get older.
2007-03-02 10:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Holy cow, kids are too young to understand "explaining the consequences". they need something to REMEMBER that will make them NOT do it the next time. I regularly smack my 10 month old on the hand or butt for i.e. touching outlets (even though they are babyproofed--we are not always at home where everything is safe), touching cables, wires, for standing in the tub, for wiggling dangerously on the changing table. He KNOWS what no means. I rarely have to smack him anymore, I only have to say "no!" and he refrains from doing it. He's even learning now what not to do without being told no, like go up the staircase. After several spankings, and then several "NO!"S, he now just hangs out at the bottom but does not dare to try to crawl up. He is SMART baby.
2007-03-02 10:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
NEVER spank a child seriously!! You'll get into a lot of trouble if you do and someone finds out. Don't do it. Just explain it the way u think is best and that means without spanking or hitting.
2007-03-02 10:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋