It seems that every time the invite is from me, we have a great time, and never once does anyone pick up the phone and say "Hey it's my turn, meet you at..."
2007-03-02 10:22:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Are you the one who does the inviting when you pay for lunch or dinner? If so, just stop inviting people.
I was being used very similarly, but once I stopped saying, "Hey, guys, want to grab some lunch?" they stopped expecting me to pay for everything. All that happens now is we get separate checks, but I'm ok with that. My friends are lousy moochers :P
2007-03-02 10:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Allo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard not to keep track of things like this when they seem to be one sided.
I would suggest speaking to them if they are close friends and politely mention how you feel. The worst thing you can do is stew about it or let yourself get bitter.
It is possible there is something in their life prevents them from doing this, either that or they are simply that inconsiderate. They probably don't even realize that they never get the tab.
Try spliting the check, it can be tricky if you are the one who did the inviting but there are ways to work it out before you go out to make the situation clear.
2007-03-02 11:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by ashley b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have sponges for friends. If you don't mind losing them as friends, try this:" Hey, let's go to lunch at Marco's restaurant, it will have to be dutch treat, I'll be tapped out for awhile, the car needs some major work done. Hey, can one of you swing by and pick me up?"
You will find out who really likes you, and who does not.
And with the money you saved when they all say no, go buy yourself an expensive lunch. Or a new purse!
2007-03-02 12:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that you need to ask yourself why you continue to treat these "friends". If they aren't contributing to your life in any way, then perhaps they don't need to be invited to dinner next time. But it is also possible that they do contribute to your life in some other way. Friendship should always be reciprocal but the reciprocation needn't be "in kind".
2007-03-03 04:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite.
Try suggesting, "would you like to get together for (whatever)" so that the idea is that everyone pays for their own dinner, unless you specifically say, "would love to take you out for dinner" paying for the entire bill by you should not be assumed.
2007-03-02 12:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are not real friends. Real friends reciprocate. Even if they can not afford to take you out, real friends treat to a home cooked meal.
You should stop inviting. If they miss you they will ring you, if not you aren't loosing anything other then a bill.
2007-03-02 11:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're not fun to be around but the other person is afraid to hurt your feelings. Maybe a free meal is the only way to stomach you. Evaluate your conversations next time. Do you tend to focus on the negative? Do you think most people are out to get you? Are you usually depressed. Look in a mirror and ask yourself why you're not the belle of the ball. You may be surprised at what you see. I have a friend that I onlt see when he calls because I feel bad for him. He's a nice guy but he's extremely bitter and cynical. So I keep my distance. I even make excuses why not to see him.
2007-03-02 10:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Nick C 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Whether you are the rich of the band and make your friends overwhelmed, or you are buying them off— and must look for new ones. This is a situation, called: out of exchange!
Ciao.....John-John.-
2007-03-02 10:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they are not your friends and are taking you for a ride.
2007-03-02 10:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "friends" seem to be using you.
2007-03-02 11:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋