How the heck do you have sex!? Is it just me, but I want to know the details, I'm sure alot of virgins out there want to know,too!? How do you start, and what are women supposed to do!? I need some help, fast!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 10:22:09 · 23 answers · asked by honey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, know your own body, know where everything is, explore it by yourself, and learn what gives you pleasure and how (masturbation is OK), and what doesn't. Identify your body's reaction to touch or your senses in general, and how do these turn you on/off, etc. Don't be afraid of getting to know yourself!
In the act itself, relax and be into it (want it to happen). Make sure that you're very lubricated (naturally or you can use some KY-Jelly,etc.). When the guy penetrates you, you'll probably feel a sharp pain, that's your hymen, a thin membrane that's on the entrance of the vagina...most women have it, some don't, any case is totally normal.
My perosnal experience was that it hurt...a lot! But in a strange way, you want to keep going. The more relaxed you are, the less you'll tighten your vaginal muscles (involuntarily) and the easier penetration will be. If you decide to, tell the guy to go *really* slow, you'll feel how the penis "breaks" that barrier and goes deeper inside of you.
For your first time, just relax, open your legs a bit (also facilitates penetration). Start feeling the rithym of your partners thrusting (as I said before, tell him to start uper slow and then gradully pick up the pace), you can also regulate the rythym bymoving your hips backwards and forwards (I'm assuming a "missionary style" position here).
As the frequency of the thrusting increases, the pleasure you'll feel will increase too. It's not likely that you'll have an orgasm on your first time with intercourse, not because there's a physical impediment at all, but basically because your mind is going about a mile a minute, between nervousness, feeling of new sensations, intimacy, expectations, comfort level etc.). You can wrap your legs around the guys backside to get into the rythym.
Finally, the thrusting will become very fast and they guy will come to orgasm, you can feel the subtle pulsations of his penis, and then he starts going flaccid.
Basically those are the motions. You may notice when you get up that you might have left a splotch of blood on the sheets, that's because your hymen broke so you do bleed a little; as I said before, every woman is different, some women bleed, some don't, all of this is natural and OK.
Finally, something that I would have liked to know after my first time that freaked me out a bit (now I know is 100% normal). It's possible that you'll be spotting even as long as week after your first intercourse, your body is just healing up, the remnants of your hymen are healing, etc.as I said, when I was still spotting after a couple of days, I got really freaked out, I thought there was som,ething wrong with me cause I didn't expect THAT! but it happens sometimes to some women and it's OK. No biggie!
Also, wait about a week or two before you have sex again, you'll be less sore and you're body would have healed up by then. Maybe you'll have a little bit of pain at insertion next time, but it'll go away in a second.
I hope you have a great first sexual experience, cause I believe that shapes our attitude towards sex in the future. Be sure that you're mature enough, physically and emotionally; and that your partner is someone you trust and is sensitive to your needs. Be careful, USE PROTECTION please! Enjoy the intimacy of your sexuality and sensuality, personally, my first time was great cause I was mature enough to appreciate all of these factors, and it really made me the sexually uninhibited person I am today.
Good luck and have fun!
2007-03-02 10:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by cleo715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you need help fast says that you really should reconsider if you are ready now or not. Sex should never take place in a rushed situation unless you are a seasoned veteran. Take your time and enjoy the moment. Nature has a way of working things out. You will figure it out when the time is right.
2007-03-02 18:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by honestmind 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off..... Unless your ready to have children you really should think twice about it. Also think about protection, for Sexually Transmitted diseases and to prevent pregnancy.
Sex is easy just do some foreplay. Basic touching and kissing. (Helps stimulate the orgains better) Then just go with the moment. Like most things practice does make perfect. It probibly will hirt the first time though just so you know
2007-03-02 18:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by TEFMLB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're seriously asking. Try watching a little porn. The internet is crammed to the brim full of the stuff.
2007-03-02 18:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by norm2120 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not much of a troll. Keep trying and you will get the hang of it. I know you don't provoke me to respond and join into your bait.
2007-03-02 18:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously youre too young
2007-03-02 18:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Socrates 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I had the perfect answer, but now i'm not even sure i should be telling you.
2007-03-02 18:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by morobell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you and your body are ready you wnt need to ask this question anymore
2007-03-02 18:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by The Cactus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ha ha if you are asking this question then you are to young to know!!! Believe me when it is right everything will work out no reason to rush it!!
2007-03-02 18:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just lay down.. but be careful cuz u ganna bleed, and make sure that he ganna do it slowly and also hez wearing a condom
2007-03-02 18:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by madeniggaz83 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋