im a blk women who love blk men i went out with a white boy when i was 13 but never did again i have lots of white men friends but its weird when they start liking me i love puerto ricans too but thats about it am i wrong for that
2007-03-02 10:22:04 · 33 answers · asked by luive45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not a racist. You have certain men that you are attracted to and that is ok. If you hate people of another race then you are a racist.
2007-03-02 10:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between a racist person and a person who sometimes does racist things, just as there is a difference between a bad person and person who sometimes does bad things.
So yes, it is a little racist to refuse to date men outside your race, because you are making a value judgement about these men (ie, that they can never fully understand or appreciate you or your experience as a black person) based solely on the color of their skin. But it doesn't make you an evil nazi-type person, it's just a prejudice that you have to recognize and address.
It's okay to have a *preference* for a certain group or body type, but don't limit yourself by something as trivial as skin color. Sure, you want someone who can appreciate your experience... but maybe you also need someone who can offer you a fresh perspective, complement your differences, introduce you to something new. Keep an open mind, just as you would have others keep an open mind towards you.
2007-03-02 10:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a problem! Just your preference. I have known many white men who prefer to date white women, but I wouldn't call them racists. I have an Asian friend who prefered, before he got married, to date Asian women. Although I am white, I personally think Asian and Peurto Rican women are hot and think they are more sexy then white girls, but that is just me.
2007-03-02 10:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think thats racist - it would only be racist if you were rude about it if a white guy asked you out and you brought his race into it, otherwise its just a personal preference thing.
2007-03-02 10:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You'd be considered to have a romantic preference, that's all. Unless of course it crosses over into disliking someone in general simply because of their skin color but it doesn't sound to me like you have that problem.
What you're explaining is no different than some men preferring blonds to brunettes or blue eyes to brown.
2007-03-02 10:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Digital Haruspex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think so. You can't help who you like or who you are attracted to. Being a racists means you are saying/doing/thinking that someone of a different race is less important or unequal to your race. Thats different then just having your own taste on who you are attracted to.
2007-03-02 10:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find white men attractive but refuse to date them because they are white, then you are racist.
But if you don't date white men because you don't find them attractive, then there is nothing wrong with that.
Although I find it hard to believe that out of the many white men you must've met you didn't find any one of them attractive. I think that every race has some attractive people who are attractive to everyone.
2007-03-02 10:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not racist. It's just you prefer black men. It's ok you don't like white guys. Racist is when white people give rights to white people that black people don't have access to.
2007-03-02 10:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your choice.Your not wrong.When you find the right mate,It won't matter what race they are.I'm a white man and fell in love with a Native American girl.
2007-03-02 10:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by hdf69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, everyone has their preferences. It is perfectly fine if black men just happen to be your type. You just shouldn't close yourself totally to dating outside your race. You never know who might be out there who is a good match for you.
2007-03-02 10:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by acvader 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋