wait and save ? or just get on with it?!
2007-03-02 10:06:37 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well I don't think you can plan it like that.
I was married for 10 years to man who had a fantastic, really highly paid job, I didn't need to work - perfect situation for kids really. We had a lovely home etc etc, plenty of spare cash. But I never got pregnant.
I eventually left him for my current partner who's much younger than me and on minimum wage. I had given up trying to get pregnant as I beleived I couldn't, so we just decided to concentrate on enjoying life. We were struggling along, both working and spending what little we had on making ends meet . . .
And I got pregnant!!!
My baby is 13 weeks old now and the light of my life! Sometimes things are just "meant to be". I mean, my partner and I are on a low income and its going to be a struggle but our son is the most beautiful blessing we could have wished for and is all the more precious because I never thought I'd have a child!
Fate does tend to take the decision out of our hands. I was in a perfect situation to have kids with my ex and I couldn't conceive. I met my partner and set up home on very low income, and conceived! So I'd say that although waiting and saving is good sometimes it doesn't always work out. How many people have waited for years and then found they can't have kids?!
Even if you do get pregnant when you're not at the perfect time in your life, you manage.
2007-03-03 11:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how much you save, children cost a lot of money! in my late teens I always said I would wait until I was 30 to have kids, then fell pregnant at 21! I now have 2 children, and l am glad because I am young enough to still have a good life and enjoy myself when they grow up. There is a 3 year age gap between my children which is very hard work sometimes ( kids are now 6 1/2 and nearly 3) but they play together and keep each other company. Being a younger parent means you have more energy to do things like chase them round the park, play on the trampoline and all of the other energetic things kids love to do.
2007-03-02 18:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by DIANNE B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best time would be when the married couple have spent a few years together building a household and saving a nest egg. I think too many people get married and have a baby right away before they've really, really gotten to know each other and have fun. Like someone else said, you'll always feel like you'll never have enough money, so don't wait too long. Try to plan it at a time when you can give the most and best of yourself to your baby.
2007-03-02 18:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by karen W 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You could easily argue that now or never is the best time! LOL It's a completely personal decision and whilst it would be wonderful to wait until you're completely financially sound it's also really unrealistic for a lot of people who would never have kids if that was the case. Babies come along in life and you will find a way to cope because you have to.
The time is right when YOU and your partner feel ready.
2007-03-03 08:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait and save
let everything settle down
i would wait about 2-3 years= just to know that all jobs and money issues are solved. Make sure you knoe everything is perfect to support the family
Good luck
You choose on what feels best for you! :)
2007-03-02 18:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think there is ever a right time to start a family, if you want one I say just go a head a start now!
Good luck!
2007-03-03 06:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First be married (if you are not already). As far as saving, it's good to have enough money saved to pay a couple months worth of bills, but if you are trying to save a ton of money forget it. If you and your spouse feel comfortable (financially) and you feel ready to be the best possible parent then go for it! Being the best parent is not just money. But of course money will come in handy.
2007-03-02 18:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by jennymustafa 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The best time to have a baby is when you have enough money to take care of one. Or when you have a good job married so he can't walk out on you will your pregnant. Also if the man treats you right or loves you very much and wouldn't do anything to hurt you.
2007-03-02 19:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by A$!AN P3R$UA$!ON 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wait and save. its better to prepared so as not to complicate everything if situations arises. But sometimes a saying like these holds true " fortune favors the bold" if really your rearing for it go ahead.
2007-03-02 18:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by briggs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will NEVER be finacially ready for children, so you'd have to wait forever. but also, it's good to have things in order and not be too far in debt. Get major things out of the way, but then have kids and enjoy them. Don't wait until you're too old or you'll regret it.
2007-03-02 18:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by Andii 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋