I have a friend that I have been out of touch with for 3 years. We came back into contact with each other recently and the most we ever keep in touch now is by email and even that is become rare. I have now been invited to his wedding. Even though it would be nice to catch up with him and some other old friends who might be there, I'm sure I would feel like a stranger if I went. Plus, I don't even know the bride! Should I RSVP to this wedding? And if not, should I still send a gift?
2007-03-02 10:02:15 · 39 answers · asked by Anon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I guess I should add that we are not good friends.....more like good acquaintances.....and the wedding is 3 hours away...
2007-03-02 10:18:26 · update #1
Skip the church and go to the reception, especially if there's an open bar. Buy them a toaster.
2007-03-02 10:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by bobweb 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It totally depends on YOU. You need to consider how you think you will feel about being there. Maybe you could RSVP +1 and take a date.
Also, if you WANT to go then RSVP........there is nothing that says you need to stay at the reception. Plus remember that people tend to be EXTRA friendly at weddings so it should be okay.
If I knew there would be some old friends that I would want to see then I would go. If I was going just for the groom. I would not; however, people dont just invite ANYONE to their weddings.
They invite people that they want to be there so I would say that IF you decide not to attend.........send a gift or at least a card.
2007-03-02 10:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should RSVP to this wedding whether or not you are going. If you don't go, you don't have to send a present -- you can send a present but you don't have to. If you go to the wedding, perhaps you will meet some new people but don't count on being able to "catch up with him" on his wedding day. A gift (even if you don't go) is a nice gesture and you don't have to spend a lot to acknowledge this special day for your friend and his bride.
2007-03-02 10:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES!!!
You know what goes on at weddings don't you? It's a good time. Those old acquaintances have a similar background as you and they're in the same age group so get out there and take it easy.
You'll probably get slightly drunk at some point of the day which will make it all the more enjoyable.
3 years isn't that long ago and he probably thinks you are a cool person if he wants you to attend.
50 bucks in a card...no big deal!
2007-03-02 10:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by airmandan10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this friend important to you? Does he make you feel important in his life? If both apply then yes you should go. If you might feel left out or like a stranger, you should ask to invite someone with you. Most weddings, people send invitations for you and a guest if you would like. If he truly is a friend you plan on keeping around, I'll say go. Friends are hard to find, and if you let them down, it'd be a breakdown. Good Luck on that. Not only that, but you can always meet new people! =) As long as you congratulate them and wish them best, let's hope they understand.
2007-03-02 10:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad if you don't want to go, but yes, you need to buy them a gift. Odds are, he probably felt awkward about you guys getting back in touch just as he was planning his wedding and felt--sorry to say--obligated to invite you. I'm currently planning a wedding, and it's SO hard to run into someone you haven't seen in years and resist the urge to invite them then and there. But then you remember that the guest list is growing into monstrous proportions and you can't REALLY afford to wine and dine everyone you've known since grade school. So yeah, don't feel bad for RSVP-ing that you can't make it (yes, you should RSVP). Just be sure to send a card and some token gift expressing your well-wishes.
2007-03-02 10:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that you should attend this wedding. You can catch up with old friends and the groom. To avoid the feeling of isolationism, ask if you can bring a friend or family member with you so if the worst happens, you have someone to talk to. Most likely, you will have a great time at the wedding and best of all, weddings are always beautiful sights so enjoy yourself!
2007-03-02 10:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by mcvcm92 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have felt obligated to send an invitation because of the e-mail contact. I would RSVP with regrets (not attending) and send along a nice congratulations card. The invite should not be interpreted as a gift request.
After they are married, send him an e-mail and go meet his wife.
2007-03-02 10:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would reply will not attend, but send a wedding gift with a lovely wedding card. It could be a gift card, or a check or something they need if you have their gift registry. If you decide to go, it will cost you alot, between new outfit, gift, and the fact that you are not that close, send a gift. That's it.
2007-03-02 11:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if he was once a good friend then you definitely should go. I don't see any harm in attending the wedding. And he thought enough of you to invite you. So you probably should go. However, if you decide not to go then you should send a gift. It would be a nice way to congratulate him on his big day!
Good Luck
2007-03-02 10:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you decide you have to reply, its only polite. Personally I'd go along. It might be good fun to catch up with some old friends. I very much doubt you would get that much time to chat to your friend who is getting married though so that wouldnt be an issue!
If you dont go, it would be nice but not necessary to send a gift. If you do, a small one would be ok I'd think.
2007-03-02 10:07:22 · answer #11 · answered by Tiffers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋