so i really like him, but im not in love with him yet. we havent been going out that long, only a month, and he wants sex. what should i tell him? i want to be a virgin until marriage. serious answers, please.
2007-03-02 09:49:22 · 30 answers · asked by Chelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I respect young girls who KNOW they want to wait. Now the hard part is getting the guys to understand this. I think of this as a test for the guy. If the guy is unwilling or pushy about waiting... he isnt for you FOR SURE! If the guy understands and is respectful about it.. Then he might be the one. Stick to your values, and dont let go. Many people will pressure you to do things you dont want to do, and YOU DONT HAVE TO GIVE IN! Good luck sweets.
2007-03-02 09:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just said, you want to be a virgin till marriage, although he might just see it as a goal. That is def. not a long time going out with him, and since you know you don'tlove him, then don't do it. even when you think you love someone, always tell yourself you want to stay a virgin. Don't let any man influence your decissions. If he doesn't understand your choice, then he doesn't deserve you, but a good guy would understand and not pressure you into something you don't want. Please stick to your choice and it will pay off in the end! Good Luck!
2007-03-02 09:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow well Heres my advice if your not ready and if u dont want a baby right now and are not ready and ..if you want to mantain a virgin then just say a simple two lettered word NO ok... dont go messing up your life just because a boy that you dont even kno if your going to be together forever with ruin your chances of sucess later in your life like going to colledge getting a great paying job ..etc.You ask how bout if he says but we can use a condom well.. those arnt 100% SAFE so dont take the risk and ruin your life. If if he cant aprecciate what you want then hes not the right guy.. Well i wish the best of luck to you
:)-DEE
2007-03-02 10:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by dee3384 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to remain a virgin until marriage. This will either get him to like you even more (if he is a good guy) or he will dump you (if he is a piece of crap in which case you do not want to be going out with him anyways).
2007-03-02 09:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him, point blank, that YOU DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX NOW, PERIOD. And if he puts up ANY SORT OF argument trying to change your mind, you need to break up with him RIGHT THEN AND THERE. You can still like him and he WILL COME BACK in a few days, if not sooner, and you can reitterate the importance of LOVE BEFORE SEX.
I commend you for your decency. Please be strong and do not have sex until you are ready to have sex. Marriage is a good time to be ready.
2007-03-02 09:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to, when he asks you say something like "I know that you love me. And you should know that I care for you and us together. But, I really don't think I'm ready for sex. I know that there is things that can prevent pregnancies, but I really don't even want to take a chance. If you love me, you will understand." And if he doesn't like that he's not good enough for you, and you should wait for the right person. Good luck! I know that it will work out.
2007-03-02 09:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by SexyBack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything you're not comfortable with hun. Tell him how u feel. To be honest he may decide he's not in to the idea of waiting, but thats his loss. A lot of guys these days r not into the idea of waiting for marraige but once u find the right guy he will respect ur decision, even though it may be difficult.
2007-03-02 09:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you feel. And if he doesn't like it. Then tell him good bye. Because if he really loved you he would honor your wishes and wait. But this a question you need to answer yourself. Follow your hart. Don't let anyone pressure you to do anything that you don't wish to do. Be true to your self. My girl friend wants to wait until marriage. And I respect her for it. But if you Deside to do it. Remember always use protection. Even if he doesn't wont to. I hope my answer is the one that you are looking for. Remember stay true to yourself.
2007-03-02 09:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by bob s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is something you can only give away once and it completly changes young relationships. You've got a good head on you. If he doesnt want to wait, he's probally not a keeper even if the chemistry is strong.
See if you can have a good discussion, that will tell you a lot.
2007-03-02 09:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest breaking off this relationship. He has just revealed to you that his focus is sex, not a lasting relationship with you. Stay a virgin until you're married. It is a precious gift to give to the person who was willing to wait.
2007-03-02 09:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by r.p. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋