think that their partners dont talk to them, or are we happy with the level of conversation? do they really listen, or just get the basics from the conversation and ignore the rest?
2007-03-02 09:44:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My partner talks and actually listens - but many of my past relationships had selective listening skills.
2007-03-02 09:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a great couple to listen and converse, its so difficult. I was with my partner for 13 years and we never talked. I'd get home from my sales job and i would just want to rest and say nothing! I talked all day to customers and the last thing i wanted / needed was a conversation.
Sometimes quiet is best....
2007-03-02 17:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by declanwoz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a four year relationship, and at times, I know my bf doesn't listen to what I have to say, there are times where the communication is great, and we could talk for hours, then other times, where I feel like i'm talking to a brick wall! It is so frustrating. I think it's a man thing, and they are so insensitive that they don't understand how important conversation is in a relationship! If there isn't communication, then what's left?!
2007-03-02 17:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God, I could've written this myself! My boyfriend doesn't listen to me, I'm sure of it. It's like he hears my voice and switches off. It's only if he hears something important, that he might start listening, but more often than not will ask me to repeat myself by saying "what did you say about such and such". If I talk about myself, my feelings, my hopes, my aspirations etc, he doesn't hear me...but if I talk about him, his interests, his life etc, then he'll listen and pay more attention than ever. He's always been this way, so I don't think our relationship is suffering...but, it does get to a point where you have to find someone else to talk to, before you go insane, and that's why I've now done. I'm not cheating, but I have needs, and talking is one of those.
2007-03-02 17:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they just get the basics and ignore the rest. I know when my partner has reached is absorbtion limit - he just says, yes darling or that's right darling to everthing I say!. It's a girl thing to talk, talk and talk and a man thing to listen with one ear!
2007-03-02 17:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time he listens, but sometimes he is a mood where he wont take anything seriously. Like Im trying to talk about something really important and he will start touching my boobs! Grr! That really gets to me.
2007-03-02 17:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by jkeys00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men in general have a way of switching off. They are not good listeners unless the subject really interests them. They see the idol chit chat we women indulge in as unimportant so they tune their ears out !!!!
2007-03-02 17:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...he listens well and really understand what i feel and what i am saying. we really put in the high level of our relationship the communication even we are not really together...its good to have somebody who listens first and then he will have his say on the topic...
2007-03-02 17:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by President Of D' Clan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband hardly ever listens to what i have to say, if i'm talking about my day, he wonders, just don't listen, Yet I'm expected to listen to everything he says, and he's just like his mom, NEVER SHUTS UP
2007-03-02 18:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh, i been with my man for 25 years, he hardly listens to a word i say. if he listened to me do you think i would be here doing this??
2007-03-06 15:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋