I was at work with my female coworker, the one that i'm in love with when I made a comment that she has wrinkles by mistake...She didn't say anything about it at the time, but i made another mistake and said she looked like someone that is much older than she is, and then she called me out on it and then brought up how i said she had wrinkles the other day. Did I hurt my chances with this girl...I'm not sure if she likes me or not?
2007-03-02 09:07:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, yeah, you made a mistake -- but mistakes can be a great opportunity! If she called you out on your less-than-tactful remarks, then it means that she might like you enough that her feelings were a bit hurt. If that is the case, you have an opportunity to make her feel better about herself than she did before you made the accidental remarks.
You need to decide, though, how you want to deal with this -- as a friendly co-worker or as a potential love-interest. In either case, the following would probably work fine: go up to her when she isn't too busy or isn't chatting with someone else, and explain that you feel really bad about the remarks you made. You can say, 'you may have already forgotten about this [she probably hasn't, but that isn't the point], but I feel really bad about those comments I made the other day. I've been trying to think of a way to make it up to you, but I think that a straight-up apology is probably best. I really didn't mean it the way it came out and I feel bad that you might have thought I was putting you down. In reality, I am just not the most articulate person all the time -- it was my idiocy, and nothing to do with you. So, I'm sorry."
Now, her mind will probably be blown that it even crossed your mind that what you said was hurtful or that you continued thinking about it after she called you out. Plus, putting yourself down mildly gives her the opportunity to say something like "you aren't an IDIOT, you just didn't think" or at least think something like that to herself. You aren't an idiot, obviously, but if she thinks you think you were an idiot it will make it clear that you really do feel bad and regret what you said.
Now, if you would like to try and use this as a way to move your friendship to another level, introduce the element of flowers or a card or tickets to something she would like. Frame it in terms of an apology -- "I feel really bad about making you feel old the other day and I want to make up for it, would you like to go [insert desirable activity] with me?" Or send her a flower arrangement (nothing showy or too serious -- just something pretty) and write a short apology in the card. The last option -- what I would call the brutally honest approach -- is to blurt out your feelings for her, tell her that you get so nervous when you talk to her that you say the wrong things, and tell her you feel like you blew any chances you had with her and you want to know how you can make it up. Maybe you did blow your chances, and she'll tell you. But, maybe she'll be touched and realize that you really care about her. It may be worth a shot. Also, for this method bring flowers or a cup of her favorite coffee drink, or her favorite junk food (girls like it when potential suitors encourage them to enjoy the things that they feel guilty about enjoying). Good luck!!!!
2007-03-02 09:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by coreyander 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her out and if she says yes then your good to go! But if she says no then say if its got anything to do with the comments I made about your wrinkles etc Its just my wierd sense of humour I was joking I am like that but dont worry I just got out of the wrong side of the bed that day It definetely will not happen again and it was not true!
2007-03-02 17:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by тнιηк αgαιη 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chances of hitting a home run dropped to zero with the first dumb remark, then you follow up with mistake number two and now you want to know if she likes you? Okay, gonna be serious and give you some straight dope on getting the goodies from ladies 101: Never EVER tell a woman she looks older than she is if you gots the hots for her that. Women, sane or otherwise, love compliments not put downs so you got some work to do to mend that fence.
Make her a card, yeah handmade, admitting your dumb mistake but asking her to forgive your lapse in sanity, get some flowers give them to her and ask her out to lunch so you can tell it like it is. You like her, want her to like you and only she can tell you if you have a chance in Hades of putting your log in her fireplace to ignite your lusts and passions.
2007-03-02 17:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by rashawn4u2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smooth move! I'd say she's pretty upset. but if she has ever shone you any signs of affection you might still have a chance. Find out what she likes. Send her gifts to work with note stateing how sorry you are. Or just come right out say how you feel and beg for another chance. and if your lucky you might get it. Just goofing it up.
2007-03-02 17:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure she now thinks you DON'T like her. You hurt her feelings.
You'll have to show her you like her, say nice things. Ask her out!
And NEVER say those things again to a woman!! Even if we know it's true, we don't want a man saying that. Much less a guy we like. You should point out the things you like about her.
2007-03-02 17:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you've lost your chance. You should just apologize because now I think that she thinks that you don't find her to be attractive after making those two comments about her appearance.. you should let her know that you think she is a wonderful person and she's beautiful inside and out.
2007-03-02 17:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me it did but let it pass by, in a couple of weeks she wont remember. Just remember woman don't like people to ask them their age and they HATE if someone tells them they are older than they really are, complement her on her hair or something like that but trust me it won't hurt your chances.
2007-03-02 17:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Blueberry. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouchh.. omm well i hate to break it to you hunn but you are gon have to chill with the rude comments if you really like her..you might have hurt your chances a bit.. however, if dont you admitt to her that you love her then you dont have a chance at all now do you? you should tell her you were just kidding and that you are very sorry if you offended her and that you will never do it again.. and tell her you love her!
⥠GOOD LUCK HUNN â¥
2007-03-02 17:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by i miss himm.alott? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you kinda did. before u tell her u have feelings for her, start complementing her...and be nice to her. then make it up to her, and make sure that she knows you didnt mean it. comments like those stick with girls in a lifetime!
2007-03-02 17:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by [: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think so
u need to just go apologize and tell her how u really feel.
how u love her.
how u just cant stop lookin at her.
how u wanna be with her.
how u cant stop thinking about her.
how u just wanna kiss her.
how u just wanna hold her close to you.
how u just want her.
2007-03-02 17:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy Butterfly! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋