Ok i need some support. I know everyone is just going to say get over it why the hell would you miss someone like that, Please try not to be mean. I was living with my boyfriend we were together for about a year we were best friends before we got into a relationship thats why it hurts so bad because i never thought he would hurt me like this. About a month ago things got out of hand and he ended up hitting me. i let that go, but a few days later he kicked my door in so i called the cops. I felt guilty after i did it because i love him and didnt want to get him in trouble. When i did this he left me and said that he cant be with someone who called the cops and got him in trouble. He is making me feel so bad. he says hes going to go be with someone who would never do that to him. He told me he hates me and never wants to see me again. When i get lonely i call him and he told me to stop and that he hates me. How can he hate me so much? i was such a good woman to him. It hurts so bad.
2007-03-02 08:53:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I truly believed he loved me i just need to get over him. How can i do that? I dont want him hating me for what i did!
2007-03-02 08:54:56 · update #1
It will take time to get over something horrible like that. I don't have any experience in any type of romantic relationships, but I do know that it is NEVER okay to abuse someone. I think you did the right thing. And of course you are going to miss him, it's not like he started out hitting you. Don't worry about missing him, it is normal to miss someone, even if you do break up with them. My friend broke up with her boyfriend not to long ago, and she felt worse than he did. But, in time she felt better, and now she's back to her old self. You'll get over him, but don't push yourself too hard or rush into another relationship too soon, or you could end up getting hurt even worse. Good luck!
2007-03-02 09:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You miss him and there's nothing wrong with that. The part that you miss is the part that you thought loved you. You do not miss the part that hit you or kicked your door down. You should NOT feel guilty. You were protecting yourself when you called the police. If he were a good boyfriend, he would be the one protecting you instead of hurting you.
If he does find someone dumb enough to date him, it will be a girl who does not have any self worth and is only interested in having a man on her arm, not about the fact that he beats the crap out of her.
You are better than that. Mourn the good parts of the relationship, but when you want to call him, remember that he hit you, kicked down your door, and forced you to call the police then blamed you for it. He will not change and you can't make him. If the ex says he hates you, you must be doing something right!.
Think about finding someone who truly respects you and once you're involved in that relationship, you will see how silly you once were to be upset over such a loser. You will learn that relationships are meant to be good with a few bumps in the road, not the other way around. Good luck!
2007-03-02 09:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, OK........here goes. The FIRST thing u may want to establish is that u did NOTHING wrong whatsoever. The guilt u feel is strictly from the complex he has given u. Now I know u may love him HOWEVER, if his love for u was true he would have NEVER laid a hand on u nor put u in harms way so the 2nd thing u may want to establish is that although u love him it does not sounds like he truly cared for you. Although it is not right, most victims of domestic violence do end up feeling as tho they are the guilty party. This is where u may need the support of other domestic violence victims. But first and foremost u need to STOP blaming yourself. I wont say to get over him because that emotional bond is hard to break, but from how and what u write u DO deserve better and there is NEVER a reason for a man to put his hands on a woman in a violent manner. I really wish u luck.....Holla if u need to!!
2007-03-02 09:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by Papi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize you did nothing wrong...the cops were just a defense. Most people try to make other people feel bad for their wrong-doing, and they know they are wrong. You love him and you show it. If he loves you, is he showing it by hitting you and slamming your door down? We all know the pain for not having love returned to us, a gut-wrenching, hurting feeling, but we must move on. Very cliche, but there's a reason why it's said so much. Because it's the only thing to do sometimes. Good luck on your journey. Love will find you.
2007-03-02 09:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by rasstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt hate for protecting yourself,you had every right to.Hitting is wrong.Its a good thing he left it could get more violent and you dont deserve this treatment.Dont contact him keep yourself busy and find someone who is worthy of your love.You deserve so much more.I wouldnt even be his friend either.You are not a punching bag he has issues he needs to deal with,before any relationship.You will get over him.
2007-03-09 02:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call him, I know it may hurt at first, but thats a step your going to have to make. He hit you, so he really doesnt love you, you have to tell yourself that. And you deserve a man, not a boy!!!!
2007-03-02 08:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by ravensgirl2k6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off its not your fault for falling stupid insensative jerk who only thinks about himself don't feel bad try getting couseling because this should affect your life and no one should fell low where they sink into deep depression trust me o've been there try to understand he's not your true love he should be greatful of you but he's foolish and it really isn't your fault
2007-03-02 09:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by babyboom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋