I don't want to live with either of them. should I move in with my 30 year sister?
2007-03-02 08:48:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no
tell them that you need and want both
you are a flower
your mom's the light
your dad's the water
the flower can't live only with one of these two
I hope if their peoblem can be solved they live together with you again
anyways because I don't know every thing I will just pray to my God
Good luck
don't forget you have your God
2007-03-02 08:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you ar but I do think it's unfair & unrealistic for your mom & dad not to want to share. You are only one person & can't be in two places at one time & shouldn't have to choose between two parents. They should stop fighting over you & look at what is best for you. If you are in your teens perhaps the judge will consider your feelings & allow you to live with your sister, provided she agrees & is able to take care of you until you are grown. I wish you the best of luck & hope your parents see that they are hurting you before it's too late.
2007-03-02 08:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the sister is the best option - I'm a teen too... At least you can talk to her about how you feel in the situation without insulting them. You're sister is younger too, and is more likely to share your feelings and concerns.
I hope you're ok, and whatever you decide will work. I also need you to know (sorry if you do) that drugs won't help your pain... They'lll cover it up until eventually everything is one hundred billion times worse...
Your parents both love you. Be grateful for that.
2007-03-02 09:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation.
You do not say how old you are so it's hard to give advice. You also don't mention if your sister has made an offer to you to stay with her.
BUT if you can, I would try to get your parents, and sister together and talk about it. Talk through ALL of the options and hope that you can come to some sort of agreement together.
You can also try to get someone to mediate the meeting - someone who hasn't "taken sides" with anyone in your family....a counselor perhaps.
Good luck to you! My parents divorced when I was 11 and although it was amicable, it is never easy.
2007-03-02 08:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by anhellica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor thing! I can't believe your parents have been so selfish as to put you in such a difficult spot. You need to talk to your parent's about how you're feeling even if you have to scream at them to get them to listen! Then ask them if you could live with your sister. At 30 yrs. old she should be responsible enough to look out for you. How does your sister feel about you coming to live with her? I hope you have already discussed this with her! If you talking to your parents about you moving in with her doesn't work maybe you could get your sister to talk to them for you, or an aunt ot uncle. adults have a harder time listening to kids than they do other adults, especially if they are family! So, good luck! And I wish you lot's of happiness.
2007-03-02 09:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by kathy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, they will settle this in court. There is a thing called joint custody with guidelines that they would have to follow so you would be in a more structered inviroment. Try to sit them down and use this info. They'll probably be shocked to hear it come from you and it may also make them more aware of how they are tearing you apart. Once that happens you may enjoy your time with each one of them more. They sound like they are being pretty selfish for not thinking of you at this time but may not realize it and won't until someone makes them aware of what it is doing to you. I hope things work out for you. It's a tough situation. Best of Luck to you and your family.
2007-03-02 09:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the whole situation and i think you would have to explain your parents and your sister to all of us just so we can give a decent answer.
But from what I know right now, I would suggest you stay with who you feel the most comfortable with, and that doesn't me its automatically your sister. I mean try to see where the most of your trouble could be in and what are the pro's and con's of staying with that person. For example, my father left my mom around when I was in high school. I chose to stay with my mother not only becaue Im used to her but in th end it doesn't effect my social life and education because I would be able to goto the same school with all my friends
2007-03-02 09:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by whom_god_giveth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a lot of details. Why dont you want to live with either of them? Can you talk to them? If the problems are bad and your sister is willing I would say yes, but only if the problems are bad and you cant talk to one or both of your parents.
2007-03-02 08:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know right now your parents are not acting like they are thinking of you but they really are they bot feel that you would be better off with them just hang in there and they will come to a agreement and all this mess will be behind you as for living with your sister i don't think that's a good idea but a visit to escape the battle zone might be a wonderful idea good luck
2007-03-02 09:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel that you don't want to be pulled back and fourth by them and if they have to go to court to see who you live with then tell the judge that you would like to live by yourself or if that doesn't work you could move in with or a friends house and if that doesn't work them move in with your sister if you think that will be better
2007-03-02 08:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by agbrat09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋