So I'm a girl, 18 and..yeah. Problem is that I get annoyed easily, over littlest things and that's ok I think, as long as I'm not being rude to someone who isnt be blamed. My mom means everything to me and sometimes when I get annoyed I vent my anger on her, which later I cry over a lot and feel selfish. I don't really care when I vent it on others.. I just blow up in their faces and throw stuff around. But when I vent it on mom when I know she's the only person taking care of every damn thing I still vent it on her, maybe because she's my best friend but that's not a valid reason is it. I dont know..I just really want to stop this behavior, it makes me feel more guilty when she doesnt even tell me off, she just tries to console me and tell me not to worry and calm down. I know most of you would say "she needs to give you beatings" and believe me I agree, but she loves me too much to do that. How do you advice me to calm down and take things easy? I'm not crazily short tempered though
2007-03-02 08:44:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think you deserve a beating. Something is triggering this in you. And your mom sounds like a very good mom. You are a wonderful daughter, because you want to figure this out and overcome this behavior. So bravo to you both. Now, throwing things is not good because without you wanting to, you can really hurt someone and that will only bring you more problems. Why don't the both of you speak with your doctor to find a therapist and/or an organization that can help you. You can start by writing down your very first memory of when you felt to upset and angry. Take your time thinking jot whatever it is that comes to your mind. What scares you? Did someone hurt you physically and/or verbally? Did you feel abandoned by anyone? And so on. I truly feel that you can and will work this out. Your mom loves you. She would talk to a therapist so that you can get over this. And you guys deserve it. So call make an appointment with your doctor (no you don't have to be crazy so don't think that. you want a solution to this problem so why not ask someone that can guide you correctly?) Hope something of what I said can help. Good luck.
2007-03-02 08:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to first of all respect her as your parent. If you feel yourself about to go off, leave the room and don't talk to her until you can calm down. You've given yourself permission to treat your mother as your equal, and that's not the way it should be.
2007-03-02 08:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a anger management class i know you don't want to go to a room full of strangers and talk but if it teaches you how to handle your temper so your mom doesn't suffer then you should do it
2007-03-02 08:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋