I met this guy that i've been crushing on for weeks. but form what i've heard theres nothing a guy likes more than a good mystery. So when ever we talk I listen and we have great conversation. But if he's talking to some one else i pertend not to notice he's there and I dont wait for him after classes, and we dont talk after word unless he waits for me.
But now i'm cofused on if he likes me. I at first i thouht so but now he dosen't wait for me as much as he use to. Do I come off to as "I just want to be friends?"
2007-03-02 08:44:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to show some interest
2007-03-02 08:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by none 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put it on the table. If I were that guy, I'd get the sense that you don't truly care about anything that I do.
Also, it would seem that you're not being yourself, as you are trying to conform to what you think is the prevalent attitude about what guys like. "Guys like mystery, so I'm gonna be mysterious".
You should be thinking more along the lines of "He likes mystery, well, too bad for him if he doesn't find me mysterious enough".
Even if you two hooked up based on the current situation, the real you would come out later and take him by surprise.
I hate to be cliche, but... BE YOURSELF. I can not stress this enough. People are smart creatures. If I get into a relationship with a girl based on how we feel at the moment, often later it ends up falling apart, because she wasn't her true self at the start... I was into who she was pretending to be, until the real her surfaced, and then I was out of there.
I'd be willing to bet that by being yourself, you'll get a much better idea as to whether he likes YOU or not.
2007-03-02 16:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by uncare_bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally like a woman who is like an open book. Not necessarily a primer, but no layers that she keeps hidden. If I want a mystery I'll watch a movie or read a book.I like someone who will have a good conversation, and won't shrink away when I touch her shoulder.
2007-03-02 16:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys as well as girls have different taste. I think mystery or a women that seems hard to get to is a turn on for many guys. When you think about it, guys in general get tired of girls they can get easily, and like to go for the chase. The easy girls are like game play, you know when you want something fast. Then a girl that they want to hold on to may be the one they have to work to get who i guess they feel is worth keeping. Girls we tend to always be attracted to the guys we love to hate, like players, egotistical, and aren't too fond of the easy going, sweethearts. Someone different from us helps mellow us out and make the relationship exciting. Well, i guess for me, i can't really say what type of guy I like. If the attraction and chemistry is there, then it's there.
Krazy Libra
2007-03-02 16:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men don't like games or to be teased, its a turn off. Mysterious yes, and you were not acting mysterious you were acting like an acquaintance.
2007-03-02 16:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by SuperDave 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, play hard to get and he will be more interested. But every now and then put yourself in a position to give him what he wants. Then pull away again. It's a dumb game but it's part of creating attraction.
2007-03-02 16:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys hate it when girls play games.
Just be yourself, don't make it hang and be honest, we don't like to be messed around, if you mess guys around we tend to lose interest. A bit of mystery is nice but gane playing is a major turn off
2007-03-02 16:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya. you might come off as I want to be friends. Touch his arm when you talk to him. Stand slightly closer then normal talking distance. He will get the idea
2007-03-02 16:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him more and wait for him i have the same proplem but i had a cush on him for like 3 or2 years and tell him that u like him or tell some one else that u like him
2007-03-02 16:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by chyby802joeygirl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you stop "acting" mysteriously and just be yourself. If you like him, let him know that. Stop pretending to be someone you're not.
2007-03-02 16:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drama doesn't always work...
for instance me....if I see drama, well anything that is not clear and open, I am outa there
I think too many girls make a mistake on that...and lose a guy who could treat them well.
2007-03-02 16:49:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋