I would love another baby but my husband wants to wait a while - I haven't yet approached him on this one as I think he will say not yet. I would like my children close together and I am the main carer - any ideas?
2007-03-02 08:40:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I haven't read your other answers as this questions strikes a chord with me, for years i wanted more children but knew my wife wanted to wait, I bit my lip, waited, waited some more then as a couple the conversation arose out of the blue and we decided what a good idea, we love children and bringing life into this world is such a great feeling, anyways i am a typical man, I got messed up drinkin and accused my wife of all sorts, she decided it wasnt time for us to have another baby, But 6 weeks later,Surprise were pregnant, this baby wnated to show up it was time, but because of this our relationship is growing stronger by the day, and it shows that when its time for another life to show up, its not down to decisions or situations but more about readyness and love,if you got those 2 things in order then just go get pregnant, hope that makes sense............?
2007-03-02 09:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by john b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please remember you are in this together, his feelings must be respected. Having your children close together can mean anything from the standard 9-10 months to 3-4 years. Talking with him about this in a calm, respectful manner might help, as I didn't understand why my husband didn't want more children until he explained to me that he was the oldest of 3 and practically his entire life was spent hearing that he couldn't have something because his brother and sister needed something more.
My guess is he's feeling overwhelmed with one baby, and if you have just reached either the beginning or ending of a stage - sleeping through the night, teething, etc.etc., he wants to enjoy the way things are before going through it all over again. Ultimately, that is why I decided not to have another child myself, because I wasn't sure I wanted to do it again, and it wasn't fair to a child to do that to them.
2007-03-02 08:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by GJF 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If youre financially stable and are ready for another child I dont see why you shouldnt have another. Try to warm him up to the idea of having another baby. Bring up the points that it would be good for the children to be close in age, that you are financially able to have another baby, and anything else you can think of that would help your side of the situation. Hope it helps!
2007-03-02 08:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I question why you are on here asking us, this is your husband, he is the person you should be able to go to with anything. I would think, just sit down after your other child/ren are asleep and just tell him you want to have a serious conversation. If he still says no, you need to respect that, you don't want him feeling stuck.
2007-03-02 08:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep dropping hints, and then keep throwing good points into a conversation, 2 having your kids close 2gether, my little boy is 11 months and we are trying 4 another xx
2007-03-02 09:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him you would like the children close together? you said hubby wants to wait a while, so he hasn't said no to more children, if you was to fall pregnant he would be happy, but tell him how you feel, tell him how important it is for you.
2007-03-02 08:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you think its time for another baby to enter your lifes and if your husband says not yet wait a while babies are a handful.
2007-03-02 08:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by ♥TaTyAnA's MoMmY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell your husband you want another baby and if he says "no" just wait awhile until he's ready
2007-03-02 08:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him! tell him what you've said here, that you'd like them closer together. failing that, let him explain to you why he wants to wait. maybe you can meet a comprimise. good luck xxx
2007-03-02 08:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by hana woo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you just need to be honest with him if you feel you can't approach him about something so serious ask yourself
"are you with the right man"!!!!1
2007-03-02 09:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by amanda s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋