So, I just started going out with this boy (let's call him BOB). I'm 12, and I really like him, but i haven't told my parents yet. I can't tell my dad, because he'll probably test me 4 HIV and put me on birth control, but I'm not so sure If i can trust my mom. She's usualy openminded about these kinds of things. But, I don't know if she is just going to let it happen. I mean, my little brother has a girlfriend, but they're not really serious or anything. I want to spend as much time with this guy as possible. Do I tell her or not? (All serious answers please, I will report abuse)
2007-03-02 08:38:47 · 5 answers · asked by yoyoyowatup3579 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you tried asking your mom about when she was younger and had her first crush? boyfriend? Did her parents know? how did they react? Try and start a conversation about her and when she was growing up. It doesn't have to be all in one day but here and there. Then if she starts asking you questions it would be easier for you to tell her. I think that you should at least talk to your mom. That way you can be able to talk to her if something (not only boy stuff) happens. You need to be and stay safe and sneaking around doesn't allow you to be safe in any situation. Also bring up the fact that your brother has a girlfriend. Just talk. Take it from there. I know it's hard. But for being 12 you seem to be going the right direction. Try and sneak a conversation with your mom while in the car, when you guys are alone and no one else can hear you. Good luck. I have a feeling you and your mom will be able to talk and get through this.
2007-03-02 08:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not totally unusual to have a school girl crush at 12 but you are way too young to think about having a boyfriend and dating. Enjoy your life while you are young and get your education before you start thinking about boyfriends. My daughter had her first child at 18. She will be 25 next month and now has two children and lives at home with us. She cries because for as much as she loves her children, her friends have gone to college and and have freedom to do the things that she can no longer do as a single mom of two children. She now feels like a nobody and has lost a lot of her self esteem because she did not make good decisions when she was younger. Please understand that we all love the babys, but it's a tough road out there and you could be heading in that direction if you are not careful.
2007-03-02 17:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Laura C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent and there is know way I would ever let my girls start dating at the age of 12 that is much to young even at 14 my girls were only allowed to go out with a chaperon or to a school or church social event so yes i would recommend that you confide in at least one parent or if you really want to be honest and straight forward sit down and discuss it openly with both parents you might be surprised and they might let you see him but under guidance and with rules after all my girls thought I was to strict but they understand now that they are older.
2007-03-02 17:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by juju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12 years old you should be focused on school and not a boy. My daughter is almost 12 and I would go crazy if she told me she had a boyfriend!!!
2007-03-02 16:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i am not a parent but i would tell maybe he will do all that testing but as olng as no sex you shouldn't worry.
2007-03-02 16:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by lizard d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋