I recently had a female coworker leave the company. We were friends when she worked with me. When she left, I asked her to keep in touch. She said I should email her if I ever felt like getting together for lunch. We are both married. My question is this;
am I supposed to wait for her to email me when she's available for lunch, or am I supposed to email her over and over, seeing if she wants to get together? If I don't email her, I don't want her to think that I blew her off. But I would feel like a pest if I kept emailing her... What does etiquette say about this?
2007-03-02 08:32:30 · 17 answers · asked by a121evolution 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would e-mail her: to say hello and ask if she would like to get together for lunch one day the following week. This would give her ample notice. She will either accept or decline. If she accepts fine, if not, no big deal either.
Other than work, you both may have nothing else in common other than a working relationship and just talk about the office and the people there.
If she declines, remember that often office "friendships" are just that. This may have nothing to do with you personally.
2007-03-02 08:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who said email once and put the ball in her court. Married or single, male or female, it's good to keep up your work contacts if you had a good relationship. The way things are going in the labour market these days you never know when you might need a job, and most of the good ones are found through networking! Find out about her new company.. perhaps there are great opportunities there! Or you might find out that things are better where you are now.. either way.. an email can't hurt!
But if this whole thing really is on the up & up, tell your wife, and make this a normal 'work' lunch, not an excuse to take the afternoon off!
2007-03-03 17:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email her once. If you are male you should invite her and her husband to get together ith you and your wife, probably, to avoid any issues. From there, follow her lead- if she says yes, well then its settled. If she says not this time, or maybe another day, try once more, in a few weeks, then let it go. If she ignores you.....well then it's settled too.
Yes, email her. Once. Wait for her response before you do anything else.
2007-03-02 09:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, I would just email her to ask about her job and how she is doing. Then when she responds, email her again and then ask to get together and set up a time. I think that seems the best way to do it.
2007-03-02 08:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are to e-mail her first, anytime you feel it'd be a good time to meet up. Then she will reply to let you know if possible or not. She might perhaps suggest another day in her email.
No you don't have to keep emailing her for the right day. If she replies saying she can't make it, reply back saying to let you know when she would like to meet up. Then the ball will be in her court.
2007-03-02 08:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette demands that you leave well alone - you are both married and you cannot imagine the hurt to a lot of people if you pursue this FANCY. Anyway, you ought not to be calling a former colleague a cow.
2007-03-02 08:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email her once with the invitation to go out for lunch. If she doesn't respond, then leave it alone. She isn't interested. Definitely do NOT keep emailing her or she'll think you are psycho. Once is enough.
2007-03-02 08:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're male/female and both married, I suggest you NOT get together for lunch no matter how innocent your intentions. The only way I stayed in touch with married excoworkers was if they knew my husband and I socially already and we made it a foursome.
2007-03-02 08:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 03:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by fogleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just email her once and see what's up. Take it from there. Y'all are both married so hopefully this isn't like a date thing. Whatever you do remember that you're both married.
2007-03-02 08:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ghurricane87 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋