I don't really like kids, am I a heartless person? My nephew comes here every week-end sometimes I'm nice to him but mostly I don't talk to him or play with him.. I feel rude but I can't help it. My mom tries to keep him away from me cos I tell her I hate noise and don't want to be disturbed, so she tries to keep him away cos I tell her to. But sometimes I play with him a lot but that's only when I'm REALLY in a great mood. Otherwise I stay quiet and annoyed. I do want to change but I can't help it.. I just don't like kids, I do like babies but I don't like when kids make noise, my nephew is really intelligent though he doesn't make much noise and is very clean, but still.. I'm just like that. Am I heartless, rude? Or is it normal? I'm 18 by the way..
2007-03-02 08:30:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't think that is cruel, as long as you are honest about yourself. Also if you do not have any bad intentions on hurting anyone. Some people just don't have Any patience for children and that is okay if you are honest with your self and have no bad intentions towards children.
2007-03-02 09:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Saint Patty's girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't hearless, cruel or rude. Some people just don't enjoy the company of children and that's okay.
It difficult for relatives to understand this and can be a tricky situation. I think if my husband's nieces came over every weekend, I would certainly make myself scarce, to to a bird sanctuary, park, kite flying, anthing. If it is not possible to take a run for it, then I keep busy with my own stuff, gardening, poking around the yard etc. I have a sign in my kitchen, "Pets are welcome, children must be on a leash". I'm not mean, just don't have anything to say to them and not interested.
Keep cool.
2007-03-02 16:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am the exact same way. I DO NOT perfer children but it is not being heartless. I am not mean to children but I stay away from them. I hate the noise, I hate the smell, I hate the messes they make. We are not heartless we just have opinions. There is nothing wrong with that.
2007-03-02 16:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by inactive 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I´ve never liked kids either, probably because I grew up as an only child with no kids my age in my neighborhood so I was never around them growing up. I had my friends at school, but I could never tolerate anyone younger than me, even when I was a kid myself (for instance when I was 10 I couldn´t stand 6-year-olds).
We´re all products of our childhoods and circumstances so I don´t think it´s heartless, rude or abnormal. I wish I could love kids but I don´t.
2007-03-02 17:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Double 709 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not heartless. Sometimes people just don't like kids and that's that.
I think at least saying "hi" to your nephew when he comes to visit--even if you say nothing else and even if you don't have time to play--would be common courtesy.
2007-03-02 16:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by marisalwood 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not cruel, no. Childish though. Teens tend to put their own needs way above others. Mature people like and respect others regardless of their age. That goes double for family.
It does not mean you have to play with him. There are polite ways to make him understand you don't want him to dominate your time. You should accept that responsibility yourself instead of getting your mom involved. Treat him like a human being.
2007-03-02 16:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by semdot 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with or cruel about not liking kids. You may not like them now but that may also change. Even if you grow older not liking kids, you would be considered lucky to know that before you have any of your own.
2007-03-02 16:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Wijssegger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people like kids, some don't. It's just your preference. Just don't hurt them (including hurting their feelings) deliberately. Now THAT is heartless and sick!
2007-03-02 16:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it's not cruel to dislike kids. Just make sure you never bring any kids of your own into this world. That would be the ultimate cruelty!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 16:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Diana 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok as long as you aren't mean to kids. People that are mean to kids are cruel and deserve a beating.
2007-03-02 16:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋